well abit of a long storie....i split with my ex gf just before christmas and we aint had any contact since then.i still ring and email her mum and dad as we are still on speaking term's.but along with that i speak to my ex gf's work mates and they told me today that she has a new boyfriend and so on and that nearly everyday my ex speak's about me saying this and that,along with that she was not happy cos her mum and dad was still speaking to me so her friends have said..plus they said she dont seem to be happy with her new boyfriend and dont seem to be able to move on with her life.from what it seems to me she is on a rebound trying to get over me.we was together for 2 years and had alot of holidays and stuff together she loves me and i still love her...well i just dont know what the answer to this is cos i dont wanna just run away cos am joining the army in a few weeks so i dont want to leave knowing she still care's for me and stuf.plzzzz sum1 must have some idea's
2007-03-11 07:23:28 · 10 answers · asked by killergibbo1111 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to her and tell her how you feel, and tell her you wanted to go away knowing not wondering just like you said here, thats only way your really going to find out what it means, peeps can tell you what they think but we are not her, and and are not you so its tough, best thing you can do for yourself is to talk to her, it will clear things up better than anyone here could
2007-03-11 07:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Xander R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did u split? Need more info on break up? But yes it does sound like she is on a rebound. and just because u split with her doesn't mean u have to split with her parents, unless ur doing so just to upset her? And I don't think ur running away ur trying to just live ur life. Keep the door open with her and the family. You can always keep in contact with emails and such. Talk with her tell her that u want to settle this before you leave. You sure can't make things any worse by telling her ur feeling's. And if she doesn't feel the same way then u have ur answer. And God Bless You!
2007-03-11 14:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by cindy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the 2 of you are still on speaking terms, then give her a call, and tell her that you would like to get together b4 you leave for the military. Take her out for a nice lunch or dinner and see how it goes from there. I also don't think that I would completely believe everything that her friends are saying that she is saying.....they may just be filling your head full of crap, just to see how it turns out......I would just stick with a lunch or a dinner, maybe about 2 weeks - a month b4 you leave.
good luck
2007-03-11 14:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very good thing that you're joining the army. If you know for sure that she loves you, then be as good to her as you know how. You were together for 2 years, so you should know by now what she likes and how she likes to be treated. I'm in the Army, stationed at Fort Stewart, Georgia. If things don't work out with your ex believe me, after basic training you'll meet plenty of girls in AIT and your first duty station. By the way, make sure you are preparing for your PT test: PUSH-UPS, SIT-UPS and the 2 MILE RUN.
2007-03-11 14:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is both remarkable and noteworthy that you are on speaking terms with her parents. They must like you to some extent otherwise your ex would not be so upset about you talking to them.
Whatever broke you up was not so major as to destroy feelings you still harbor for each other. You have to seek her out and talk to her directly about how you feel and what your tentative plans are.
Don't use her parents as a pipeline of information about her. Though, if you do indeed join the army, I think they would want to know and wish you well. If you do connect with their daughter, I assume that they would know that from her.
I wish you and her good luck.
2007-03-11 14:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a very tough situation. Thats one of my fears...my boyfriend joining the army. but i think she still loves you too but she's trying move on and you in the other hand loves her back but you're gonna be away. if you tell her how you feel its still gonna hurt her because you're joining the army. Talk to her on the phone and ask how she's doing. Be nice and make her feel good and safe. that way you probably know if she still care.
hope that helps.
2007-03-11 14:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by honeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her. You guys are broken up for a reason. You don't want to get into that whole post breakup game playing thing. It'll hurt worse the second time.
2007-03-11 14:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by karl_2676 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the aswer toyour Q lies at the source,not at her parents,friends,workmates etc.,-and she has made the
decision,be it right, wrong or indefferent-so takeit fromthere and take distance, stopp ringing her in-laws and lok for anoher shell on he beach,-if yiu are for each other, it willhappen later may be and twomore people will be hurt
afterwards, but such is love,-ntil then, ake no for answer
and don't waste yours and other guys time. GWS
2007-03-12 03:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Gerhard S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her and tell her straight up how you feel.That is the only way to know for sure.Good Luck.
2007-03-11 14:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better talk to her before it's too late I think or you may never know mate. good luck.
p_o
2007-03-11 14:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by pooped_over 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋