why do girls have such double standsards?

Question

girls(especially feminists) are always talking about how guys are so shallow because they are attracted to good looks and don't accept girls for who they are, but what about girls? first off, guys aren't that picky. we don't need girls to look like supermodels. i can be turned on by girls who are average or good looking. it's true that most guys don't look at ugly girls, but do girls look at ugly guys? however, for me, i'd consider about 20% of girls ugly. the rest are good looking or average. most girls consider about 50% of guys ugly, and only about 20% good looking. and on top of this, most girls will only be sexually attracted to average guys if they are talented or popular. and also, if an ugly girl hits on a guy, he'll probably take it nicely. but if an ugly guy or even an average guy hits on a girl, she usually finds it 'creepy' or 'awkward' and is rude about it. it's really girls who are being pickier than guys. so why do girls act like it's perfectly ok for them?

by the way, don't try to deny the fact that girls are actually like that. you and i both know it's true. i'm just looking for how you feel about this whole thing.

unless of course, you'd like to argue the following:

1. girls are sexually attracted to ugly guys

2. girls are sexually attracted to average guys who are not talented and have no special status

3. girls like it when ugly or average guys hit on them

i WOULD date a nerd. unless she's really ugly or a b*tch.

the double standards i'm refering to is the fact that girls think it's ok for them to be shallow, but not for guys.

Answer 1

Not true, unless you are in high school. OK look, I'm an attractive woman men hit on me all the time. Good looking, not so good looking. My son's father is what you would call "not good looking" I met him through a friend. I liked his personality and we hit it off. I found myself attracted to him because of his personality. He was attractive to ME. Yes, I got a lot of crap from other people because we didn't "look right together" but it was from both men and women. So yes some people are shallow. Don't stereotype all women. Grow up.

Answer 2

i'm pretty sure you have been through a few "experiences" to be able to ponder such a question. Or, actually, I guess if guys just look around they will notice that. You mentioned that girls find it creepy if you hit on them. Well, I’m pretty shy, the few times I have tried to tell a girl, they have always instantly lost any interest they showed in communicating with me. I have decided this is because I, or we, go after girls that are just generally better than me. Then again, you did say you’d consider dating more than 50% of girls, so….that would toss that theory out. Girls are weird. The good looking ones were chased after by guys earlier on. People tend to internalize what they hear often from many sources. That would explain my dislike for myself. Anyways, it’s obvious that some girls know they can get whatever they want from guys. Sometimes they hold all the cards. Can you blame them from trying to play them as best they can. Makes sense to have all the standards your looks can afford. Why not…

Answer 3

I'm a girl, and I consider about 70% of other girls average or below. I have high standards for girls because I'm one myself. However, when it comes to guys, I don't find any unattractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. Half of the guys in my year can't see past my braces, and the other half think I'm pretty. Personally, if a guy has a nice smile I'm all for him. I think guys and girls are probably equally shallow, except that guys tend to care less about their girlfriends when they are ugly, whereas girls treat their boyfriend the same way whether he's a dog or not. That's why you tend to see gorgeous girls with guys of a less beautiful nature. It comes down to personality. Beauty is not in fact, skin-deep. You're making a mistake by grouping all girls together in a pack, and grouping all guys in a similar pack. We're all individuals and not all of us are the shallow kids we seem to be.

Answer 4

Well you have to date people you are attracted to. If you aren't attracted it won't work. So stop worrying so much about what percentage of who acts how. You are only running into this problem because you care too much. Just stop. Find a nice girl, and stick with her. I think you like the drama. This is why you are paying so much attention. It will be different once you get out of high school. Just treat a girl with respect, and dump her if she refuses to treat you with the same respect. Simple as pie my friend.

Answer 5

It looks to me like you know only "feminist-wanna-be's". While I dont see any ugly people in the world, You must only be looking at the outside of a person. Have you never knew a girl who was slightly overweight, not drop dead gorgeous, but was one of the nicest people you ever met? did you want to go out with her? probably not, you would probably rather go out with her slimmed down, better looking freind who isnt as nice, or is dumb.
I know a lot of people, varying in the looks dept. and I see more "unattractive" guys with attractive women than vice-versa.
Call it a society thing, which dictates for you what you think is attractive.
Looks to me that you have hung out with some truly ugly females in your life (ugly meaning on the inside),
There are these types in both men and women, those who look more at what the person is like, rather than what the person looks like. know what I am trying to say?
so get some better freinds, stop going to bars and such to find women, look at what a woman is on the inside.
(p.s. I used to only date great looking men, till i found out most of them were jerks, now I dont look so much at the outside package, maybe our parents were right when they said "Can't judge a book by its cover".)

Answer 6

I go for average guys because they tend to not be so full of themselves... I don't think your argument holds up, because there are seriously a lot of girls NOT like that, you're just basing it on the ones who are...

I agree with the person who said it's not like this unless it's high school... kids in high school tend to be obsessed with beauty, b/c of the media (like another person said)... but then (hopefully) they grow up. What grade are you in?

And just so ya know, I've went out with plenty of guys that would be considered ugly, because (brace yourself) I liked their personality! (And just so ya know, I'm not ugly too, I was actually the semi-popular girl, won homecoming queen).

And I've never accused guys of being pickier than girls, because I think that it happens to vary from person to person... guys and girls are a lot more similar than you might think.

Answer 7

We're that so picky. Not all of us are. As a girl I know we want a good looking guy at first but when you found that right person to go with looks, popularity doesnt mean a thing anymore. Those type of girls that hella picky just want to be seen as the "perfect girl" but for those who dont look for LOOKS want affection or maybe they just want a decent guy.

Answer 8

I think your premise is wrong. I know a lot of girls and in my opinion they are attracted to confidence #1 no matter how the guy looks. This is why you always see hot girls with average looking guys.

Answer 9

Everyone has double standards.

I, personally, have never been the one to date super hot guys--actually, most of the guys I've dated weren't very attractive.

I'm a feminist.

Then again, I have always chose the guys with low self-esteem. Go figure.

I still prefer girls to guys, though.

Answer 10

Only shallow people feel that way. You know, not EVERYONE are idiots in this world; just most of 'em. And, why do women have high standards? Because of the media, that's why!