I have visited her family a few times and they do not like me because I am Asian. They have shown distaste for our relationship. I know they are quite proud to be white in Scandanavia. Is there anyway I can change her family's mind about me? I have never done anything to be dishonorable towards her family. The only reason her family does not like me is because I am Asian. It frustrates me very much because they make me feel like I am not worthy of my wife and I am starting to feel that way and it makes me depressed. We have a daughter together and I am not sure if her family even likes our daughter.
2007-03-11 07:03:48 · 14 answers · asked by jenzwatt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do nothing, just cut them out of your life little by little until they finally realise they have everything to lose and nothing to gain.
These people are obviously nasty little shits, just be glad you conquered their little sweetheart and theres no going back.
You're right they probably hate your daughter because your features eg eyes will predominate in her.
Tell your wife you dont like them and you dont want to see them again and you dont want your daughter to be around them either, as shes half Asian and the only link between you and your wife, you never know they might try to harm her.
2007-03-11 10:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am in almost the same situation... When i first started dating my boyfriend his parents absolutely hated me. They told me to my face that they did not like me. Reasons being: im Italian, im a bit over weight, and im not super girly. Well we continued dating and his parents never let him out to see me (my boyfriend is 22 by the way). So after dating for about a year, after all the hateful words and all the tears, he decided to take charge and just move out and live with me. Now we live in our own apartment. He would go over and visit once in a while and they wouldnt let him leave. They told him i wasnt worth it and they would steal his car keys. We eventually became engaged, and his mother lost it. She would come to our apartment and threaten us. Finally he just told them that he doesnt want to be in their lives anymore unless they change and get their act together. Well lets just say he hasnt spoken to them in over 8 months. We have never been happier. All they stress is gone. What im trying to say is that if you and your wife love eachother more than anything, then you shouldnt care what anyone else thinks including her family. If your wife wanted to marry you knowing that her family doesnt approve, then you should be so proud to have a wife that loves you for you no matter what anyone thinks. She looked past her parents dislikes and went with her heart. Dont let it bother you, just kill them with kindness and always smile because you know that your the one that is the winner! You won your wifes heart. Good luck to you and just stay strong!
2007-03-11 07:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by afireinsidexxx77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what they think you have a wife and child take care of them and don't worry about your inlaws they are the ones who are going to suffer becasue a grandchild is the best thing in the world and if they want to be narrow minded and self centered there isn't anything you can do to change them. Just love you wife and child and then someday down the road you will be the inlaw and remember what you went through and don't make the same small minded mistakes
2007-03-11 07:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK you need to tell your wife to talk to her family about how this could effect your child and to you and if they don't accept the child and you best to not expose your daughter to this! She will grow up thinking something is wrong with her! If wife's family disagrees I would not take your daughter around that family have her learn more from your family! Wife Needs to do something! Good Luck friend!
2007-03-11 07:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What does your wife think about it? Can the three of you just live your lives happily together without the influence of her family? You don't want to subject your daughter to that kind of
environment. She will be able to feel that they do not like her either.She doesn't need that. Life is hard enough.
2007-03-11 07:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by uuummk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry that this problem affects you.
You cannot stop being Asian so they need to stop disliking you and if they will not do that then your partner needs to respect you enough to control any negative influence that this dislike / racism brings you. Be honest with your partner about how you feel. Make sure she understands that if her family are disrespecting you then this will affect her daughter too and cannot be tolerated.
2007-03-11 07:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it particularly is extremely puzzling to alter the minds of bigots. dont even attempt your spouse needless to say loves you for who you're, permit that be adequate for now. In time as her kin get to understand you extra effectual they might come to understand how stupid they're being. your spouse chosen you that makes you very worth off her and you have a baby in the event that they dont make the attempt it particularly is in basic terms they who will pass over out
2016-09-30 12:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your wife how you feel.. she obviously thinks you are worthy cause she married you
her family has to come to terms you are married and you have a family and if they don't accept it... that is their tough luck
you and your wife need to stick together .. they accept you as a couple and a family or they don't and have no contact with your child
I wonder if they feel your child... because of mixed parentage is also unworthy?
2007-03-11 07:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay away from them. Who needs rotten people in your life? You can't change a racist's mind. Don't let them get you down!
2007-03-11 07:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why should you have to do anything. I wouldn't do anything. Its them who don't accept you for who you are. They seem racist. I wouldn't do anything. Your not in the wrong man. They have issues. You don't. You accept them. They don't accept you. Just be civil and hopefully the rest will fall into place.
2007-03-11 07:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋