Spanking ages?

Question

I do not believe in spanking.

But a question for those of you that do.

Why is it considered inapproapraite to spank a child over a curtain age and under a curtian age, and not at all ages?

Also why is it considered more inapproapriate for a teacher to spank than a mother when it is indifferent (maybe even worse if you mother does it because you trust her more).

I find this is really really bizzare,

Answer 1

I don't believe in spanking either. I think it is a lazy form of parenting. People who spank seem to be less educated especially on child development.

Answer 2

i think spanking should be for under 12's i couldnt imagin spanking my 14 yr olds butt she would be so embarised she would proberly slap me back but the children 2-12 should be spanked i spanked my 5 yr old for the first time today and hard she had a cute lil red butt she deserved it and was as good as gold for the rest of the day were as usually there would be at least 3 inserdents in the day it can go up to around 10 sometimes

as for teachers a smack on the hand would do the kids good but not infront of the class after lesson keep them and say today the way you spoke to me was unacseptable hold out your hand 1 smack for a junior and 3 for a secondary child i being a teacher my self feel kids need this

Answer 3

To be honest, I was spanked as a child. And I admit I have tried spanking my kid a time or two. ( for major infractions) But then I thought to myself "Really what is the point to spanking?" Ok now your allowed to spank from an age of 15 months to about what 10 or 12 years old? Now if you try to hit someone for doing something wrong when your an adult you go to jail. Well at least get arrested. And why do you get arrested? Because it is wrong to put your hands on some one else, regardless of the situation. So again why is it ok to spank ( AKA hit ) a child?

Answer 4

You only spank children until it becomes ineffective. Some may stop at the age of 6 while others will wait until the age of 9. It is just like any other disciplinary action. When that action stops working as a form of punishment, then you use something else. I can't ground my 3 year old as he doesn't go anywhere on his own but I will spank him.

I don't want any one spanking my children except for my husband and I. We only spank when my children are doing something dangerous. I don't feel it is appropriate for a teacher to spank when talking out of turn or not listening. That is my punishment to use and mine alone. I can't regulate the harshness of a spanking while my children are at school.

Answer 5

I am currently taking Human Development at school, and they say not to spank younger that 15mths in the books. My teacher recommends not spanking under 3. children don't really understand everything at those ages to really know what they are doing is wrong.

A teacher spanking a child. My mother is a baby boomer, and she once told me never let another man or woman spank your child. I was never sure why, but I have never let anyone spank my children.

I am a ferm believer in spanking, but I really don't spank that often. Its almost like you contradict yourself when you tell your kids not to hit, but then you turn around and hit them. Does that make sense. I hope this helps.

Answer 6

I am one that believes in spanking when it works. I have a 5 yr old daughter. After she turned 1 I would just tap her hand and say no dont touch that. or what not.. So now Spanking doesnt do anything for her. So now I discipline her by putting her in the corner on her tippy toes. She doesnt like that so she listens.

I would be very ticked off if someone else laid their hands on my children. I feel if there is a problem they need 2 bring it to my attention. Only the parents know the right way to punish their kids.

Answer 7

spanking should always be a last resort. As far as age, some children are simply too young to understand spanking, they do not relate what they did to why they are being spanked. Also it is innappropriate to spank a teenager who really doesn't care, do something that matters, ground or take things away. When I grew up teachers were able to spank children and the reason they are not is because no matter what they say, teachers have kids they dislike and wind up spanking them for the littleist infractions. I know our teacher hatted my cousing and spanked him everyday with a paddle even when he did things other kids would just get to stand in the corner for

Answer 8

As most people say I also think it should be done out of love and aas a last resort, what is spanking out of love mean? well you calming down a bit after what the kid did, you explaing to them that the behavior was wrong, then spank but not to leave a bruise or anything, just enough to make them feel it, then give them hugs and let them know you love them and all of that etc.
For ages i think 12-13 is a good age,because they know the difference between right or wrong, after that heh military school? lol.
as for a teacher, no spanking but a swat on the palm of your hand is ok to me.

Answer 9

As for ages, it all up to the parents. Some think all the way up to 18 they can get them, personally I'd like to treat the teen years as preparation for adulthood, so I'd like to phase out childish consequences (even if there still productive). However I never say NEVER.

I don't think teachers should be spanking, the only ones who should be spanking, need to have a unconditional loving bond with that child. This better be mom, and dad. It could also be anyone who is a huge part of their life, I have given others permission to spank my girls, however they never have. Those others play a huge part in my daughters life.

Basically I don't think anyone should be altering their methods on what someone else thinks is "inappropriate" unless that method is illegal (which spanking isn't)

Answer 10

i don't find it inappropriate to spank a child, as long as that child knows right from wrong and yes from no. if they understand those words and they still insist on doing what they're not supposed to do, then i would give them a pop on the hand.

and i must disagree. a teacher spanking my son is not indifferent from me spanking my own son. that's just my opinion. i would lose my mind if somebody put their hands on my child. you put your hands on my child is like putting your hands on me. the only way i would be cool with anybody spanking my child is if i give him or her permission. i would have a problem if my son's own father spanked him for the simple fact that his father aint doing anything for him. if you not the one raising him and providing everything he needs, i don't think you have the right to touch anybody's child.