2007-03-11 06:53:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Parents have the responsibility to keep tabs on their kids. If those kids are showing every sign of becoming good, upstanding citizens by doing well in school, being respectful of others and of themselves among other things then just doing spot checks every once in a while to make sure nothing unwarranted is happening is OK.
But if the kids are running into trouble with authorities, getting bad grades and/or running with kids who are then the parents have the right and the responsibility to take any and all methods required to not only protect the child from danger but protect the public from the child.
2007-03-11 12:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is a trust factor in dealing with children. If you have been forced to deal with drugs or self mutilation or if the child has run away you have justification to search and check up on whereabouts. You must be firm that until the trust has been restored this is a way of life. The child must show that they are worthy of being trusted again then, maybe they will have more leeway.
2007-03-11 20:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Yo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if the child's safety is at stake.
The hard part is determining that, but you know your child and you'll probably be able to figure it out.
Espionage should be limited as much as possible. If you get caught playing spy your child won't trust or respect you anymore and won't feel guilty about going behind your back and doing things they shouldn't. You have to realize that spying on your kids is always a huge gamble.
Just talk to them. Try to make them feel comfortable with you. Joke around about things that they might assume are thought "taboo" by you (drugs, sex, etc.). Not to make them think that those serious matters are a joke, but to let them know that you won't be upset if they talk to you about it. It sounds silly, but when I was maybe 13 or 14, my mom and I sort of bonded over dirty jokes and that made it ok for me to talk to her about sex.
2007-03-11 14:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica LeAnn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my sister was 11 she threatened suicide. I think my parents were perfectly justified in keeping VERY close tabs on all her activities after that.
2007-03-11 14:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends. It depends on the pros and the cons. if its something to do with drugs, sex, etc, then yes. If its lying, curiosity or unwarranted fear – then no.
more details could help people get an idea of your situation
good luck
2007-03-11 14:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by mary n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you go to the department of justice and get a warrant.
2007-03-11 14:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Duffman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋