My mother always tries to tell me how I should raise my children. She never listens to me when I tell her no and she gets really mad at me when I tell her no. I don't want to listen to her but I feel bad not listening. Does anybody have any ideas?
2007-03-11 06:36:51 · 9 answers · asked by jersyparadise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell her thanks for advice but i wont need it and if she continues on and trys to make you feel bad just let her know these are your children and you will raise them how you want to raise them and thats that.
2007-03-11 08:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say - mom, i appreciate your advice, but i have everything under control and if i ever need your input i'll ask you. remember, mom, you raised me and i already know the things the things that made me your daughter and now a mother. it's now my time to put my own lifestyles into raising my children. i'm sure you know what i mean, i bet you didn't appreciate help from others when you were raising us and we turned out pretty good, didn't we??
2007-03-11 08:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm expecting my first right now. The best thing I've been told about unwanted advice is to smile, thank the person, tell them you'll consider it, and then promptly forget what they even said. If what they are saying really irks you, tell them you are doing what your child's pediatrician, teacher, whomever, recommends, and it is working just fine, thank you.
As my cousin told me when I got pregnant: ignore the advice you get - plenty of people have raised kids, but no one has raised YOUR kid. You're the parent, it's your choice how to raise your kids!
2007-03-11 06:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simply smile and thank her, tell her you'll consider it. But don't be afraid to stick up for yourself if she really keeps at you. I have an inlaw who is constantly dishing free advice and then gets mad at me when I don't follow her advice, even when I tell her I'll consider it. In those cases I just tell her that after consideration it wouldn't work with my options, then change the subject. It usually works.
2007-03-11 07:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by sweet.escape77 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing that drives me crazy is when people give you unsolicited advice! Getting advice is not bad if you asked or if it is done in a very respectful manner. I do not know if it will work but maybe you can explain to your mother that you appreciate that she wants to help but sometimes unsolicited advice is insulting. Good luck.
2007-03-11 06:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by BR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of telling her "no"; listen, then tell her you appreciate her advice and will give it some thought, but ultimately, decisions about your children will be your own.
2007-03-11 06:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you want to raise your children your way and if that doesn't work tell her she can still give you advice but you won't do any of it
2007-03-11 06:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by zaneta j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say "thank you for your advice but I have everything under control"
2007-03-11 07:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try "I appreciate your advice, Mom, I'll take that into consideration."
2007-03-11 06:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lady M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋