I am trying to figure out what I want my bridesmaids to wear. I cant afford to buy theres so I was thinking black dresses (every girl needs one). I really like the new "short" style and allowing them pick an upper half that best suites their body type and then a sash or something that goes with the color. At first I thought about letting them buy a black dress on their own but deep down I kind of would like them to match somehow. Is that rude of me?
2007-03-11 06:31:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First off, its your wedding so it is your perogative to have your bridesmaids match if you so desire. Its not at all rude of you to want your bridesmaids to match up - that is typically what is done. It is your day so do what you want. Just keep their individual money situations in mind when you chose the dress style so as not to stick them with something they may not be able to afford. They love you and will do whatever they can to make your day special. That said, I did the black dress thing for my wedding. I let my bridesmaids pick their own dresses, giving them guidelines of what I was looking for - mid-calf to just above the knee in length, short sleeve, sleeveless or spaghetti strap. My thought was that I wanted them to each have a dress that was within their individual budget, that they could wear again, and one that flattered them. I made simple little pink satin wraps to tie the looks together. It worked out beautifully! Black is great because it is one of the easiest colors to match up, its looks elegant, its something that can be worn at most any occasion, and you can pair most any color with it to acheive the effect you want. Good luck and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
2007-03-11 07:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not rude or unreasonable! Every person who was ever asked to be a bridesmaid knows that they will have to wear what you want them to wear, and if they can't understand that it's your day and your choice, then maybe they don't deserve the honor of standing at your side for the biggest day of your life! True friends understand and will do anything it takes to make this your dream! And yes I thinkt he black tea length would be a beautiful choice, including the coordinating sash color to pull it together!
If you want all of the dresses to be exactly the same, do that!You could arrange to get everyone together and try several styles, then whichever one looks the best on the most people, is your choice! Or you could do the same skirt and different tops, that are of the same color and fabric! It's up to you, but remember this is about pleasing you, not everyone else! Again, make sure you have chosen people who are concerned about your happiness on your day, and you should have NO problems!
2007-03-11 16:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by jen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What I did with my bridesmaid was choose a color and allow them to choose any dress in that color. I went to a bridal shop with each one individually and helped them choose a dress that they liked and that I liked as well. Then I got matching sashes for them to tie around their waists. My maid of honor has a green dress with a purple sash and my bridesmaids have purple dresses with green sashes. The sashes really helped pull the look together. Plus since traditionally the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses I wanted the dresses to be something they liked and would wear again, plus they all look so great. Hope that helps!!
2007-03-11 18:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about length let them pick that too. Your girls will look like bridesmaids they have the matching sash. I let my girls pick their length and their design and their colour(from the two wedding colours) I ended up with my maid of honor in the green and my Jr bridesmaid in a shade off of the blue(she was hard to fit but the material picked up both the wedding colors depending on who she stood beside) My 2 bridesmaids were both in the blue one dress had black lace over top on the top and the other had white top with the blue in the trim. All the skirts were the solid colour of what they picked. It was very obvious they were my bridesmaids and it looked great.The girls were happy as they all felt good in their choice. I think it will be fine no matter what you do they all will be in the black with the sash so who cares about the style that is your match.
2007-03-11 13:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by emmandal 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think black is fabulous for weddings personally. I also want to compliment you for being aware of their cost & feelings about what suits them best. I say pick out a few & have them decide. They may decide to all pick the same so they can match, or they may pick different tops depending on how things fit them. It's very common now to hav bridesmaids in the same color, but somewhat different dresses.
2007-03-11 13:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by layla983 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like to think if you are going to put them all in the same color let them each try a little bit of uniqueness in the style if the dress is going to be the exact same let them wear varying colors or shades of the same color. So you have made a good choice and no it isnt rude of you it is your wedding and you dont want them all to show up in whatever they come up with it would be a disaster and I've seen it happen in a couple of weddings before.
2007-03-15 00:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not rude at all. It's your wedding. Short bridesmaids dresses are very in right now. I personally think they are so cute. I had my bridesmaids get their dresses at Dillards. Each dress was $103.00 with tax. They have all kinds of styles, and I'm sure that everyone can afford one or put it on layaway until they can pay for it. They have lots of black dresses as well. Good luck finding dresses!
2007-03-11 14:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by insomniacprincess2002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love when bridesmaids dresses are a similar style but individual to suit different shapes and tastes etc. Black is very in now too. Its not rude at all, its your day so you do whatever you like. Have a fab time x
2007-03-11 15:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want mine to match too. I found a great dress in blue (my colors are blue and white) for only $50 online. I don't think they had black though... otherwise I would send the link. (If you want it anyway just let me know!) I don't think it's rude to want your dresses to match - your bridesmaids should understand that and just assume it anyway! I think it's tradition that you pick out the dress and they buy it out of respect for you! Hope this helps - have a great wedding!
2007-03-11 14:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by jlg_jdf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every bridesmaid knows there are costs involved so if they don't want to deal with that they can simply say no to being a bridesmaid for your wedding.
The bridesmaid should pay for their own dresses no matter how much they are. They shouldn't have a problem with the color or the design because it is your day and one day it will be their day and they can do whatever THEY want for their own wedding.
Don't be too considerate because you will regret it. You want your special day to be done your way, don't compromise that!
The bridesmaids should also help out, by writing invitations, sending them out, calling around for this or that or picking up flowers or whatever and other things you surely will need help with. Take advantage of that.
2007-03-11 13:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋