why is my child queit and jealous of my boyfriend?

Answer 1

Even if you are not spending a lot of time on your boyfriend, your child mostly percieves it that way. They once had you all to themselves, and suddenly now they have to share you with another person. It's very natural for children to become jealous in this way. They feel like you are theirs alone, and they do not want to have to share you.

Answer 2

Do you spend a lot more time with the boyfriend and less time with the child than he/she is accustomed to?
If so, you may want to invite the child and have a big day just for him/her and your boyfriend to bond some. IF it seems to be going somewhere that is.

Also, if the child has daddy in his/her life, the thought of you and/or the child with another man may be a little hard. If the child is old enough, try to explain this.

Really, though. Having a day focusing on boyfriend/child bonding in a long-term relationship is the best way to get through.

Hope this helped.

Answer 3

You have a right to have a bf. It is natural for a child to want to dominate your life and fear that he/she is being replaced in your affections. The way I have seen some parents handle it is not to visit with the bf/gf in front of the child, but to date outside the home, get a babysitter, or do it when the other parent has the child. In other words, you wait to involve the child until you know it is serious, during the meantime you prepare your child that you have someone you are spending time with. Over time, you reason with the child and reassure them about your love, and train them how to act in front of guests.

It kinda irks me that some of these people are answering like all your energy and affection should go to the child. That is not healthy or desirable. You are not dead yet and have a right to a life.

Answer 4

Your child is most likely jealous because he/she feels that you are giving more attention to your boyfriend than them. THe funny thing with kids is that they do not know how to express their feelings in words. They just act out, sometimes they act out in ways that are not so good, this is to get more attention from you,even if they are getting into trouble they still get your attention. Maybe you should set aside time just for you and your child with out your boyfriend and to start things in theright direction you can plan time for the three of you to spend quality time together and if that goes well then maybe your boyfriend and your child can spend time together getting to know each other. I hope all works out well for you.

Answer 5

Because you are now giving attention to someone else, thus the child is now jealous. Make it known to the child that they are the most important person in your life!

Answer 6

This is because you are focusing to much on your boyfriend and not enough on your child who is used to having most of your attention on them and now all the attention is going to your boyfriend. Try takeing him to play at the park or eat at his favorite reastraunt with you and your boyfriend so the two can bond and your kid will see there is nothing to be jealous of.

Answer 7

I was the same way when I was little. Its because you are now focusing on your boyfriend and giving your boyfriend your attention, hopefully not all your attention. Just make sure you make sure your child is number one and no one can take his/hers place, and let them know this!!

Answer 8

Because of the time you devote to the boyfriend instead of the child.

Answer 9

Perhaps you're spending time and energy on your bf that should be spent on your child. Never choose some new guy over your child.

Answer 10

you may not be paying as much attention to him as you used to so now he's jealous of your new boyfriend