Ok well here's the deal my boyfriend smokes and I really want him to quit cause I know that I won't be able to be with him for a long period of time if he smokes...I'm pregnant and I don't think me or my baby needs to be around it but still he smokes around me.....I've asked him to quit and he said he would,but he's not even try....is it ok to mad at him over this? and I should I really get him to understand I want him to quit?
2007-03-11 06:03:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he needs to come to a realization that smoking will kill him some day, he needs to be motivated that he wants to be alive for a long time. for me my daughter was the main reason i quit.. when i said one time..."im gonna go out for a smoke" and she replied.. " im gonna go too".. (shes 2)..
you can't make him quit. but you can stand your ground.. gettin mad won't solve anything.. its the hardest thing in the world to quit.. i still have one once and a while at social gatherings.. but i dont when im home or around my wife or daughter.. make rules and ask him to stick with it.. also it wouldn't be a bad idea to have someone he looks up to .. sibling.. father.. uncle.. best friend.. to talk to him about it also .. so he's not just gettin it from you.. so that you dont become a nagging gf ..not that you are.. but nicotine is the most addictive drug known to man.. it messes with someones head tryin to quit... and it lies to make it ok to keep smoking.. if that makes any sence..
if it doesn't work .. and he is just being a jerk and not listening.. take council with someone and your best bet would be to leave him.. but after the baby's born.. its not about your or him.. its about the baby.. both of you need to see it that way...
2007-03-11 06:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by TheNOTORIOUSBerikBassline 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-05-17 02:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is something as important to you as it seems then you need to tell him how important it is to you. You are pregnant first of all so thats reason enough to at least stop smoking around you. And if really would like him to stop and he won't respect your health, the baby's health, or his own...then maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship with him. Talk to him seriously about him and let him know what you need in a mate, or don't need for that matter. Good luck hun.
2007-03-11 06:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by kMaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'm talking from an ex-smokers perspective here.
Knowing all the good reasons why you SHOULD quit smoking isn't enough to actually do it.
He has to WANT to give up and by the sounds of it, he doesn't.
Tell him that if he can't kick the habit then he has to go OUTSIDE!!! to do it. Get rid of ALL the ashtrays in the house and put his ciggies by the door. If he wants whats best for his baby then he'll at least do that.
2007-03-11 06:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jenni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notice his erection. After I quit I had the hardest since I was 17 years old and had the sex drive of a bunny rabbit on viagra. Funny yes but really I could hang 5 towels from it no problem. Be ready to talk to him about what it's going to do to the lower regions and be enthusiastic about it. I think that would do a lot to help out with the quitting.
2016-03-29 00:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy him that quit-smoking gum. tell him to use it or else u'll break up. wait a week... if some of the gum is gone, he's trying, if not even one is gone he isnt trying and break up. it's really going to be bad for the baby. if he sues for visiting rights for the baby, if u get a good enough lawyer, he wont be able to see it be4 he quits smoking. kids who grow up around smoking a lot hav a lot more of a chance to start early.
2007-03-11 06:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by pyro_maniac_darkfire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much you get on him about smoking, he has to want to quit for him to be successful. I definately wouldn't put up with him smoking around you while your pregnant. If it bothers you and you have told him it bothers you and he continues to do it, then maybe its time for him to hit the road. You dont need to put your health and the health of your baby in jeopardy.
2007-03-11 06:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by grocerygirl_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you keep asking him to quit it comes across like you are nagging and then he'll continue to do it just out of spite.Let him quit when he feels ready not you.Till then words of encouragement are way better than criticizing.
2007-03-11 06:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get ready for a real battle, not between you and boyfriend, between you and nicotine. The stuff is more addictive than the illegal drugs. But strangely it is illegal. Makes no sense.
2007-03-11 06:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him sweetly at first but if he doesnt listen, thn speak up and tell him to stop. it is absolutely ok for u to get mad at him. tell him it's better for u and the baby, and you want him to be a grat father, and smoking doesn't help.
2007-03-11 06:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Little*Miss*Perfet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋