My partner wants me back after being apart for 3 months. He has been honest and explained what has been wrong and that he is ill and didnt know how to tell me. We are in contact and i know he wants me back but how do i go about this without putting too much pressure on him as this illness is a life long one and cant be cured. (its schizophrenia).
2007-03-11 05:53:54 · 5 answers · asked by carolina 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
IF YOU CAN HANDLE IT... DO SO. IF NOT...LIKE HIM KNOW CAREFULLY...
2007-03-11 07:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by alleykat1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know what is best here. just bear in mind that schizophrenia is an illness with a lot of stigma attached and this is probably why he didn't want to tell you - he was probably scared about how you would react.
it shows a lot that he has been honest with you and told you about it - it was probably very hard for him to share this with you. but you should make sure before you get back with him that this is what you really want, and only you can decide that.
2007-03-11 06:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by vansiepurple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Schizophrenia is a lot to deal with, for both the patient and those closest to him, even on medicine to control the symptoms. I would suggest finding a local AMI support group (association for the mentally ill) of others who are already walking in those shoes--they will be able to help guide you through some tough decisions you need to make before you get back together and if you do...you can find a group online or you can check the bulletin board at your local community mental health center. Good luck to both of you! :)
2007-03-11 06:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very difficult.
And it will be difficult whatever you decide.
You need to evaluate whether or not you love this man enough to be his carer for the rest of your lives. Because he is not in a position to be left somewhere down the line.
If you don't want to get back with him. Then don't. And try not to feel guilty or pressurised into doing so. There are people out there to care for you ex, and you can also help him the capacity of a friend.
2007-03-11 06:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by gemheinz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just be honest with him. he probably pushed you away cause he didnt want to drag you into it. let him know that you love him and you will deal with this together. he probably feels really alone.
2007-03-11 05:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋