I was invited to an engagement party for one of my best friends from high school that I haven't seen in 4 years. Everyone I've talked to has said to not go because it would probably be an uncomforatble situation for me.
The invitation says to RSVP by today. Does that mean I need to call them and tell them I'm not going, or would I only need to call if I was going?
2007-03-11 05:43:23 · 14 answers · asked by Tommy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You need to call! An RSVP is so they can gage numbers of people coming for catering, seating etc. It would be extremely rude not to reply. You don't need to give a reason - just say you have a prior engagement that night.
And you are right not to go - If you haven't seen him in 4 years. Sounds more like a 'gift-grab' party to me!
2007-03-11 08:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..you need to call them! It's very rude not to call. When my brother had his 13th birthday party, 4 of them (people he invited) didn't both RSVP'ing which we thought was very rude. You see they need numbers. They sometimes pay per head for food etc. In my example, we didn't know if they were going to rsvp the day before the party to say they were going or not. This is a real hassle because you can't invite someone and then not make enough room for them if they do call the day before, for example. With RSVP's it's best to call asap so that they can either keep you or cross you off the list. I hope I've helped.
2007-03-11 18:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it said, "RSVP Regrets Only" that would mean call only if you're not attending. Otherwise, if it merely says RSVP, then RSVP.
More and more people do not respond to RSVP these days and it's getting really bad. When in doubt, the most civilized and kind thing to do is RSVP.
2007-03-12 01:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you need to RSVP! ...if you didn't it would be rude...no matter what the circumstances are. if your going...rsvp is important so they know how many plates, seats, etc. they will need...but if your not going...it is still as important to rsvp...b/c then they don't know if your going and will end up getting extra stuff, will be waiting for you arrival, and you'll make your relationship w/ them even more uncomfortable...so keep things smooth and clear in case you do happen to run into them later on. hope that helps.
2007-03-11 08:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by tina101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 02:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think this too but RSVP doesn't mean to respond only if you're going. You should respond regardless of what you decide as it's just consideration for the head count.
http://homegarden.expertvillage.com/experts/rsvp-invitation-etiquette.htm
2007-03-11 05:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to call and let them know, that's what RSVP means you need to do.
RSVP is an abbreviation for the French phrase "Respondez S'il Vous Plait." In English, RSVP stands for "Reply Please!"
2007-03-11 06:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by Black Dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RSVP means you should call saying you are coming or say you can't make it.
2007-03-12 01:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason to RSVP, is so that people know how many to expect, so by all means, call
2007-03-11 05:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by Billie R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call. Not fair for the hostess to guess whether you're coming or not.
Not fair that they'll provide food and beverage and party favors, etc, and then you dont show up.
Call.
2007-03-11 07:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋