My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year. We live together. A few days before our anniversary he searched for his ex-girlfriends email address and emailed her a few times. The little that he did talk about her was always very short and to the point- we do not talk anymore i am not itnerested. He was in an accident a few months back and apparently she tried to contact him to see how he was. He told me up front about it and that he couldn't care less. He said he did not respond to her. There were 3 emails dating to a few days b4 our anniversary to her. they just said the basic, hi how are you, where are you now. She is currently overseas for awhile. I am not sure why he would contact her and hide it from me. This has been the 3rd time he has been sneaky behind my back so i broke up with him. Now he is begging for me back. i cant tell if its just cause i pay rent or if its for real anymore. Usually he will not apologize 1st, but this time he did. what should i do????
2007-03-11 05:42:36 · 3 answers · asked by Micha R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a good "friendly" relationship with my ex-wife. My current wife gets along well with her too. It may be cool. Do you know his ex? Meet/talk with her and let her know how you feel.
Good luck. Don't be too quick to jump to a conclusion.
2007-03-11 05:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by pukcipriavroc8v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not expect to be married to this guy because what is there left to discover? So what is the problem here? Since you are not married and there have not been any ground rules, the sky is the limit to what you guys will and can do to each other.
You are paying the rent-too many young ladies take a guys nature away because they try to do everything. We are not like guys and they need to feel just as much as a man as you need to feel just as much a woman. He was born a man so he will be man with you or with out you. Learn how to allow him to stand on his two feet and take care of some of those things-stop taking care of a man unless there is something limiting him from taking care of you and himself and you are married to him!
Married people have an expectation to not fool around and some feel that it is o.k. so they are released via divorce.They may or may not learn a valuable lesson.
In your situation what were the ground rules. When you are not married and even when you are if you want to be with someone else just walk away. The deceit is unnecessary.
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2007-03-11 05:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta check your relationship, sounds like some disconnect between you two. He's opening communication with this girl for a reason, if he didn't care that she was concerned about his accident he wouldn't responded to her to let her know, she would have gotten the hint eventually. Don't let him place the blame on the ex, its a very passive move on his part, make him understand and take responsibility for his actions.
2007-03-11 05:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by SUYAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋