potty trainning but scared?

Question

my daughter just turned 2 on the 4th of march, she has gone potty in her toliet once. the problem is she is scared of the bathroom or the toliet. if we go into a public bathroom she starts crying as soon as we step foot in the door. at home she will go into the bathroom but wont sit on the toliet she starts crying and says "its scary" how do i help her overcome her bathroom/toliet anxiety. i do know that the sound of the toliet in public bathrooms is what scares her the most..because it is so loud

Answer 1

do you have a training potty? it sounds like you are trying to put her on a big person potty which I will tell you scares most children they think they will fall in, so target and walmart both sell training potty from 20-35 dollars and its well worth every cent.
my daughter was still slightly afraid of a training potty so I would put her on it every morning when she woke up, and I would hold her and tell her stories and or sing to her, she got over her first paranoia with in 2 weeks.
hope this helps

Answer 2

Your daughter may be too young to potty train. The recommended age to start is 27 months, but I would personally drop the subject entirely til she's 2 1/2, or when she shows real interest. The harder you push the more she'll resist (I know, trust me). If she's scared of the potty that's a definite sign to just drop it for the time being.

Answer 3

the same thing scared my younger daughter. start by putting the potty chair in the living room and use it as a chair. then move it to the bathroom and have her sit with pants up while you go then when she is ready no pants and hopfully soon she wont mind going in her potty but getting her to go in poblic reastrooms may take awhile untill she has no more accdents at home. good luck. ps if she sees a 3-5 year old do it it may help.

Answer 4

This sounds kinda icky but what I ended up doing with my son is putting his potty in a comfortable place for him, (mine ended up in my living room,ewww) but he was comfortable enough to go then we moved it into the bathroom. It actually only took about 2 weeks or so.

Answer 5

I was going to explain it this way, but I found this description which says it much better than I could have...


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From your description, it sounds like she is afraid to use the potty. She knows what to do since she's used the potty once. So, this is not longer about potty training, but about addressing her irrational fear of the potty or toilet.

The key word here is irrational. Think about something that you are afraid of, but intellectually know that it is just silly. For example, I am afraid of mice and if I ever see a mouse, I will jump up on a surface where the little mouse cannot reach me. Now, I am smart enough to know that the little mouse if way more afraid of me that I am of it, but none the less, you can guess how I react when I see a mouse.

The other thing that is important here is I KNOW my fear is irrational - so please don't keep telling me that I should not be afraid of mice. All it does is annoy me and it is not helpful in anyway.

So, she probably knows in her head that there isn't a reason to be afraid, but she cannot help herself. Don't try and tell her not to be afraid. It does not work. You CANNOT talk someone out of their deep-seated irrational fear. Instead, you need to acknowledge your child's fear and figure out a way to help her work through her fear.

By acknowledging your child's fear and assuring your child that you will protect them and support them while they are afraid and vulnerable will make your child feel loved, supported and cared for. This will bring you child closer to you and enable the process of working through the fear.

It is her fear and she will have to work through it herself. You, as the parent will figure out ways to help your child get through the fear. If you can figure out what specific thing your child is afraid of, then you can figure out ways around it. You can get to it through play, imagination, telling stories, drawing pictures - things that children love to do and will help them open up to things that are bothering them.

Then once you know what the issue is, you can help and guide your child to conquer the fear through play and imagination.

Treat your child as you want to be treated when your feel scared and vulnerable. Acknowledge their feeling and treat them with tenderness and patience. Listen to what they have to say and help them work through it themselves.
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HTH

Answer 6

I had the same problem she may not be ready just yet. Give her more time to get use to the idea. Just always remind her but don't make her if she's scared.

Answer 7

PORTABLE POTTY SEAT. ANY DEPARTMENT STORE LIKE WALMART CARRIES THEM. IF SHE HAS SOMETHING THAT IS HERS SHE IS MORE LIKELY TO GO ANYWHERE. THE SEAT FOLDS UP INTO FOUR PIECES SO IT WILL FIT IN ANY BAG OR PURSE. GOOD LUCK!