Everyone's always yelling at me...?

Question

I'm 15, I have a bipolar twin sister who I share a room with, a mom with no patience, and a dad who's always at work.

I'm a quiet, peaceful type. All I ever want to do is quietly, peacefully read a book, or listen to some music on my mp3 player (nice and private) or do my homework in peace, or cuddle with my boyfriend.

Whenever something goes wrong, I end up taking the brunt of it. Earlier I was doing some research for a school project and had music on loud enough to drown out outside noise; it helps me concentrate. My sister wanted to show me something on a forum she was reading. So she said my name once, when I couldn't hear anything other than what might have been her voice, and then she came over, ripped my headphones off my head and out of my computer (nearly tore the wires off) and gave me this big speech about how I have to respect her and give her all my stuff. She destroys everything she gets her hands on, including my stuff, so I don't share.

Then my mom came...

My mom came, SHE yelled at me for being 'such an overdramatic *****" (I didn't do anything except sit in my chair and cower) then almost hit me (she stopped half and inch away from my face) told me I'm lucky and left, screaming about how hard it is to be her and how she tries to be so patient and it always fails. She makes me and my sister do everything (clean the house, make dinner, et cetera) and screams at us all the time. She calls my dad, who then yells at me, while my sister is reading my email -including my private, romantic ones from my boyfriend- and then when I come back to my computer to try and finish my research, my sister shows my mom a question I answered about why we find bare-chested women arousing. So now I was just yelled at for that.

Is it just me, or is this extreme? I know I stir up trouble sometimes, but that's rare.

Nobody in my family will listen to me, I can't get my own room or any other form of privacy.

Can I get some sympathy? It would mean a lot.

I keep everything inside and always withdraw.

I'm starting to get addicted to burning things; whenever I can, I write down how much I hate my family and burn it. Knowing that I'm the inflicter helps...creepy, ain't it.

Answer 1

Please talk to a school counselor.

Also, any other adults in your life you trust.

You sound like you have a lot to cope with and need help dealing with it all.

Some interim strategies are to get out of the house as soon as things look like they're going to erupt.

Also, always log out of your email account before you walk away from the computer, and don't let your sister know your password.

If you feel you can't talk to any adult in your life, look in the phone book for a youth hot-line. People there will help you.

Answer 2

Well I think maybe you should talk to your mom about this or someone else in your family like a grandma or maybe a cousin who is older then you. But the best thing is talking to your mom the only thing is your mom might take your sisters side because she has bipolar. But your sister for sure can not have all of your things because there yours and if you feel that way maybe you should go and move to another family members house for awhile. And if you don't want that then maybe you should move to another room or something in your house. I hope everything turns out good.

Answer 3

i know how u feel! I'm a middle child so when i was younger my older sister got to do whatever she wanted (or so it seemed at the time) and my younger brother got away with murder! (ditto) I'm the quiet one in my family too. My bro and sis both love their music whereas im happy to watch tv or read. I also have a psycho mum who i love dearly and whenever i fight argument breaks out, im involved simply because im there and i heard it. I say that when conflict starts, just pack up ur homework and go for a walk to the nearest park and finish it there and on ur way out the door, just calmly say " I don't need this right now"

Answer 4

Deal with it. Apparently you're still in school, so moving out would not be an option. Suck it up now, goto college and make your own life afterwards. I understand what you're going through and have a similar situation. I'm just going to be patient and eventually things will turn out better.

Answer 5

its not really that creapy. at least you can handle what your family puts you through. i yell back,curse,fight,whatever to make them leave me be.im abbout to run away.(dont suggest to you)i know what you feel. just let them know you wont take it or you'll call child protective services

Answer 6

I THINK They just really want to know how you can stay so peacefull.