I have a five questions for you to answer please!
1.) I am 14 and have never had a boyfriend. Is this weird? I feel left out because all of my friends had boyfriends in elementary school. I have never been kissed too.
2.) I really don't want to have a boyfriend. I want to wait til I am at least 16. Is that okay?
3.) I don't really talk to my parents about boys. Only to my friends.
4.) I am scared that when I get into college I will still have never had a boyfriend or a kiss because I live in a small town and there is probably not going to be a lot to choose from in High School.
5.) I don't want people to think that I am a lesbian because I have never had a boyfriend before. I am NOT a lesbian. I have crushes on a few guys in my school.
2007-03-11 05:06:05 · 13 answers · asked by ~ ♥ ~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am also very shy and I would not know how to act around my boyfriend if I had one. Will I become more outgoing as I get older?
2007-03-11 05:07:26 · update #1
When you find the right guy you'll know.And if he's a great guy and you love each other you'll want the whole world to know.Your parents included!Don't worry about this stuff you young you'll have plenty of time to date...
2007-03-11 05:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by LauraPalmer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya Babe!
I wouldn't really worry about all this stuff too much the time will come! As to your questions..
1) No not weird at all, it may seem like all your friends are doing it but if you have a think a lot of people haven't as well.
2)Absolutely fine, everybody different right!?
3)I never mention boyfriends around my parents, some of my friends do though, which ever you prefer really! I Only ever tell them if they coming round to the house often!
4)If you really want to meet some boys go shopping with your friends or take up a new Hobie, i wouldn't be too concerned about not having kissed any1 before college either,no one will know if you don't want them to and it's not a race!
5)I doubt this will cross anybodies mind but if it ever does get mentioned just ignore them, labeling you as something your not is horrible and what ever you do don't go find any random lad just to prove to them your not!
When you do feel ready for a boyfriend, if it's tomorrow or in 5 years time, be yourself with them and everything will be fine!
xxx
2007-03-11 05:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I can answer all of your questions with one all-inclusive answer:
I think you should take your time with boys and obviously you are not ready for that type of relationship with members of the opposite sex. And trust me, Honey, that's WONDERFUL news out of the mouth of a 14 year old girl.
I think you should take your time growing up. Don't seek out a boyfriend just because all of your friends have them. That is what is known as peer pressure. Be proud of the fact that you haven't had one, and stick to your guns about waiting until your 16, or even 17 or 18! Your parents would prefer it that way, anyway. Not that you should do it for them; do it for YOURSELF!
Too many young girls give into peer pressure and they are in such a hurry to grow up. You have the rest of your life to be an adult and only a short time to be a young girl. When you get into college, trust me that you will be glad that you waited. And the right guy will understand that you want to wait and if they don't, well then they aren't the right one after all. Having a serious boyfriend at your age opens the door to all kinds of other pressure and responsibility like sex, birth control, and STD's...all things that will be easier to deal with when you're older and when you're more mature.
As for not talking to your parents about boys...I never did either. Unless you have questions that maybe your friends cannot answer, I would say that keeping "boy talk" strictly with the BFF's is fine for now.
And, as for people thinking you're a lesbian because you haven't had a boyfriend...there is no shame in admitting that you are going to wait. Having sex isn't all its cracked up to be and there is no shame in that. And who cares what the others think? I know when you're 14, it seems like all that matters is what other people think, but in the grand scheme of things, all that matters is what YOU think and what you KNOW to be true.
Don't be in a hurry to grow up...you're doing just fine!
2007-03-11 05:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Never let anyone tell you when you "need" to have a boyfriend or kiss or anything like that. All of that stuff will come along when you are ready and comfortable. It is perfectly OK to wait to have a boyfriend.
2) Wait till you are 16, or 17 it really is OK, if you are not ready than you are not ready. Be happy with who you are!
3) Hopefully you can talk to your parents, I am sure they would be happy
4) You have plenty of time, don't be in a hurry.
5)Just be confident in who you are and how you live your life, your friends know you and that's what matters.
2007-03-11 05:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jbr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. NO, its not weird. You're just not as fast as everybody else. You'll be glad later that you waited =)
2. Yep
3. Maybe you shouldn't talk to you parents right now. They'll just lecture you about concentrating on school and tell you to wait till your 50 =X
4. You'll meet someone special sooner or later =) Don't stress about it too much!
5. Who cares what people think! As long as you and your friends know you're not, then thats all that matters. NEVER get a guy just to prove a point!
Good luck =)
2007-03-11 05:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lonely Love 06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1)no its fine i never had a girlfirned until the age of 13 , and now i am single :( )
2) not wanting to have a bf till 16 is natural i guess , my first gf found thaat out after a year of dating each other
3) Thats perfectly fine its like talking to your parents about sex right? dont answer.
4) Dont be scared about that jsut wait alittle bit
5) who the F would think you were alesbian seriously, just because i didnt have a girlfriend till 13 doesnt mean i am gay right?
2007-03-11 05:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by Dillon C (who else) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. no, admirable actually (too young emotionally for one imo)
2. yes (see note for answer one)
3. that's normal, just don't be a victim of peer pressure
4.you will see so many different types of males in college, you will get a headache (ever heard the phrase "like a kid in a candy store?"..lol)
5. people will think what they want regardless...don't mess around and force something and wound up pregnant or with a STD trying to prove you're NOT a lesbian.
you seem to be doing alright just as you are....stay that way!
2007-03-11 05:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, I know these days thats all the girls and boys think about is getting a boyfriend or girlfriend but thats not important right now. You are young and shouldn't be worried about people thinking that you are a lesbian. Don't try and rush things they will happen when they are ready to happen and you said yourself that your not ready for a boyfriend so then you know that now is not the right time for you. Be patient and the time will come...Hope this helps!
2007-03-11 05:12:16 · answer #8 · answered by HALOGURL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all people has to bypass in some unspecified time interior the destiny and time. you're no longer the 1st and you is merely no longer the final. and it rather is obtainable to be sure that the loos have air fresheners decrease than the sink. I had to be married to my husband for 2 weeks previously i found out that this replaced right into a could desire to, or we've been going to construct a bathing room interior the storage for him. LOL And as for the nostril.... back.. happens to all people, while you're at college, at college and no tissue obtainable, in an emergency, if a blow is needed use laptop paper. it rather is made out of the comparable stuff.....timber, tissue is merely softened up plenty greater. you spot, costly i'm previous!! while i replaced into at college, the adult men had handkerchiefs of their decrease back wallet and the girls a equipment of those little tissues in our bag. so which you spot, the countless previous issues quite did are available in obtainable. lol
2016-10-01 22:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the answer to your first 3 questions is, its ok to be like that. i think its fine for you to wait and you should if you feel like its right for you. and if you do get to college and have never had a bf before that will be ok too. im sure before then you will atleast go out with someone. things will change alot for you before you hit college. and last of all it will happen when it is supposed to happen and when you get a bf you will know how to act around him. just be yourself and let it happen for you in time it will work out the way it is supposed to.
2007-03-11 05:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by airbguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋