Am I right?

Question

Ok so, I gave up sex for lent, but checked with my bf first.
So here I am, honoring a promise I made to God, When last night he starts rubbing and fondeling me. I told him I dont think we should, do anything, and he said fine but kept rubbing on me. (when guys do this I freeze, because I was molested from 8-11 y/o) and it kinda scares me, and he knows this. Anyways, we ended up doing it, and now i feel bad, and am mad at him. Is this right?

Answer 1

Personally there are other things I would give up for Lent but you chose to make a big sacrifice and that is your prerogative.
This being the case your boyfriend has shown complete disrespect for your values and you are right to be mad. The issue of your experience between 8 and 11 makes it even worse - he sounds like a thoughtless pig.
I would find it difficult to forgive such insensitive behaviour. As a minimum I would give him a good spanking (that would seem appropriate to the bibles teachings and at least make me feel better) though I might consider the long term future - really over something as innocent as that. If your relationship with God is so important to you then he should not be allowed to come between you.

Answer 2

No. He was the one who kept on touching you knowing that you gave it up for Lent. He should of stopped. His drive got the best of you. Do not feel guilty though. It will be okay. I am sorry about your molestation and it appears that maybe your bf took advantage of that. I think you have issues with him. He needs to obey your wishes and not try and push you into something you didn't want to do. Next time, say no and mean it. Good luck!

Answer 3

so... he knows it . . . then he just manipulated your weakness and went against your morals to satisfy his desires,and that has nothing to do with love , if you decided to do it you have a part there too...but if you really have that "detail"in your mind you could say you let all go but felt bad,(and even faked it to get ride of the trauma feeling?)anyway . . . a man will always tell you ----because you let me ,that means you wanted that too---- so , make him clear you have a promise to God , and he represented the test you failed , he was used as temptation , so now he should have limits .And you ...better ask for another start point for that promise .

Answer 4

You knew the promise you made and you put yourself in a position in which that promise can be broken. The person you should be mad at is you. Yes he should have understood your commitment, but it would have never happened if you weren't in the situation in the first place.

Answer 5

In my opinion, I don't really think that you have a right to be mad at him because if you really didn't want to give in then you shouldn't have but it was your choice and if it wasn't your choice then thats another story. Don't be mad at him, maybe he just needs to be reassured that you are serious about giving up sex for lent.

Answer 6

well,i probally would feel bad too,its a promise you made to God and you broke it,he should have respected that and backed off.i know as a guy its hard to do that sometimes and i have backed off many time,you just know when you have to and should do that for the respect of your partner.

Answer 7

Hmmm........lets see, you are giving up fornication (which God says is wrong) for forty days to celebrate Lent? LOL!! You sure you didn't see that in a movie?

Answer 8

Well, it takes two hand to clap. Anyway, he should respect u when u rejected him earlier. U should have stopped him when he continued. Despite all this, u let it happened. You cant turn back time, so let it be. Juz make sure u wont repeat it again.

Answer 9

What do you mean SEX for LENT? wats lent??? and you should let go of your past if its gonna effect your relationship with your boyfriend....it could ruin things....

Answer 10

u should feel real bad u should not have sex until u are married that is God's word