a few months ago i went through my bfs phone and found a text message that i almost broke up with him about. he called a girl "baby" (long story) but anyway now i feel he is paranoid im going to look through his phone and i tell him ur being secretive and hes just sick of hearing it so hell just say please dont start with me. i really dont know what to do . i tbothers me sooo muchhhh
i know a guys phone is privacy bla bla but still i never wanted to go threw it or felt i had to until i found that text. any advice
2007-03-11 04:52:11 · 11 answers · asked by nygirlsrdifferent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive confronted him on the cheating thing and i dont think its that. he gave me an answer that makes sense and hes a sweet caring guy so it confuses me. I dont think he could cheat on me, and i ve asked him and i feel he is being honest with me when he says he hasn't i think the guilt would kill him.
2007-03-11 05:09:12 · update #1
also ive asked him before lemme see ur phone and he does show me when i ask but he thinks its annoying. i dont want to seem insecure either
2007-03-11 05:11:54 · update #2
Whether or not it was or is right for you to have found this text in the cell phone bill, you did, and it was sketchy. Now, he is apparently being secretive about his phone... why would that be, if there is nothing going on? My exboyfriend was ok with lending me his phone for the day if I forgot mine - until he started doing similar stuff (ends up he was cheating). Phones are not all that private, they aren't like diaries or anything - they are communication tools. It shouldn't be a problem for you to see his phone. If it is, that is sketchy - it means that he has something going on that he doesn't want you to see.
My suggestion is that you don't even bother. He isn't respecting you, but you also don't need to put yourself through the torture of trying to police him. Cut him loose. If he really wasn't cheating, and he really does love you, he'll find a way to prove that to you. If not, good for you - now you can find a guy who can own up to what he is doing, and tell you if he wants to see someone else rather than going behind your back like a coward.
2007-03-11 05:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hiding something that he does not want you to know about, if he did not have anything to hide he would not be so defensive about the text that you found in his phone from a chick, it is no telling how long he has been talking to her and what it is there are talking about, He could be cheating on you and you would never know it, whatever the case is you are going to have to tell him you don't like that he is sneaking around with his phone talking to chicks and that it makes you very uncomfortable. Tell him you want to know if he is cheating on you and he if he refuses to say anything then apparently he has something to hide. Sometimes it is bad thing to go through someones phone, but when you know something is going on then you do everything you can to find out what is going on and get to the source.
2007-03-11 05:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem just a short time ago. Well, i thought it was a problem. I simply asked my boyfriend about it and to make me feel more comfortable he just let me have his phone to see for myself. I feel like if there is nothing to hide then he would let you see. At the same time you have to ask yourself how will you make it up to him by not trusting him if he is being truthful.
Also it has been my experience that when guys get mad about you asking then they are usualy guilty.
2007-03-11 05:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by george 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is being that secretive, then something is going on. The only one he should be calling baby is you. He certainly wouldnt like it if you were secretive. If you are absolutely certain he is cheating, then you need to confront him. Dont let the phone be the demise of the relationship. You need to follow up on your insticts. I think he is cheating for sure.
2007-03-11 04:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by mlock123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If those are *in straight forward terms* from women persons, and in the event that they have no longer something to do with company, id say: He must be making this a attempt of your courting, your way or his way. He must be making use of those friendships as backup, in case issues do no longer artwork out with you. Or he might produce different issues occurring. To me, as a guy, that's totally suspicious. If the messages have been harmless and that i cherished my gf, i might coach the messages to her in a minute, without enhancing. on the least it kind of sounds like a brilliant administration element, like he has to consistently coach you he has different strategies. You pronounced you gave him an ultimatum. An ultimatum is coach me or that's over. in case you pronounced that and did no longer stick to by way of, he's much extra on top of issues. i'm suspicious, and that i'm no longer even you! That pronounced, i do no longer enable each individual limitless get entry to to my iphone. yet i might somewhat coach messages if i grew to become into there. And each individual i myself cherished may be a pal on facebook, except it grew to become right into a company account.
2016-10-18 02:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just trust him that is what all good relationships are built on! I doubt you have anything to worry about, you might be making him more secretive by asking questions after all it might just be a private message from a mate! Don't get obssessed!
2007-03-11 05:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by xfoxylady_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snap the sim card
2007-03-11 04:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by IC4NDY_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer him your cell phone to look through. Or your handbag. Or your diary,
2007-03-11 04:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Chief BaggageSmasher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he is a flirt. decision is urs.
2007-03-11 04:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Cant stop thinking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him? you need to tell him how you feel
2007-03-11 04:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋