how to make long distant relationship work????

Answer 1

I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years. they CAN work. But you both need to genuinely care about eachother and be open and honest.

Communicating and creating a sense of togetherness, even when you are away from eachother, is the key. Simple things, talking on the phone, e-mails, sending eachother little cards or surprises in the mail....these will help make things a bit more exciting and something to look forward to.

It's hard, trust me. Long distance relationships are not for people who aren't truly dedicated to one another and willing to go through whatever it takes to make the relationship work. I see my boyfriend about once a month....At times, missing him literally made my heart ache. But you get used to it over time....and if you really care about eachother, the waiting is always worth it in the end.

My advice is to communicate about where you stand. Make sure you're both devoted to one another. You need to be honest to one another. TRUST is a big issue, because you are not going to be near eachother all the time, and a lot of which goes on in your lives will be seperate from the other person.

Try not to focus on how much you hate the you cannot see eachother as much as you'd like, but remain positive. It will be very difficult at times! But if you keep in mind that if you truly love one another and are willing to work through the distance now, there will be a time in the future when you will be able to be closer. That thought is what keeps me going.

Good luck!

Answer 2

First of all don't listen to the people who say they can't/don't work. Taking that kind of approach will almost certainly doom it to failure.

The best way I can answer this question is to tell you about my long distance relationship to try to give you an idea of what I am going through and how I deal with it.

I'm in a long distance relationship at the minute. There are 138 miles between us and we get to see each other for 3 weeks every 3 months. That's all.

We were together for 9 months before we had to start being a long distance couple. It wasn't something we wanted to do but we'd applied and been accepted to different universities before we met so we didn't have any choice.

When we first began the long distance thign it was really really tough. I loved him and I trusted him but the idea of being away from him for so long at a time nearly drove me mental. I cried everyday and I all but denied myself a social life because I wanted to spend all my spare time on the phone or msn with him.

Gradually as time went on I realised that I would end up destroying myself if I went on like that. I was living a completely isolated life. I'd been at university for nearly a month and had no idea who any of the people I was "living with" were. I slowly started to spend less and less time waiting by the phone and watchign the clock and started to socialise with the people at the university.

I made a few friends and found out that we got on really well. The irony is that even though I knew that I needed it for the sake of my own sanity I felt really guilty for it because I always thought that maybe he was sitting and waiting for me.

Now we talk to each other on the phone or over msn or email as often as we can but we're not obsessive anymore.

What I'm trying to say is that you will want to spend every waking minute in contact with them but it just isn't possible.

The key is compromise.

So...

- You need to communicate with each other as much as you need to. The exact amount varies from couple to couple.

- You need to trust each other and discuss any worries you have. The other person may not be around but they still care about your feelings and what you're going through

- You need to have your own life. It will feel strange at first but it really is necessary to have a life of your own.

BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY
You need to love eachother

Answer 3

here's the recipe: 1. Take 2 mature adults 2. Have them bonded with mutual trust, sincere love for one another, patience, respect and constant open communication 3. Throw in a person to person meeting when applicable (can't be broken) 4. Add more patience, trust, and constant open communication (can't ever have too much) 5. Eventually close the gap and seal the deal! I think this is it, the hardest ingredient to find is the other mature adult :-)

Answer 4

as many have stated here, it takes trust and communication... honesty and understanding... devotion and patience. and will. there has to be an attainable goal because the idea is to be together, the long distance should just be temporary. it's something that should be discussed and agreed on. and worked on together.

and most of these arrangements don't work for a variety of reasons. that doesn't mean that you cannot make it work... both of you have to want it to work for it to work. has it ever worked for me? ask me again in a year.

Answer 5

of course,in order for a relationship to work when you're far from each other is to communicate.The question is How? By phoning each other everyday or at least thrice a day if you're realy far from each other and if it will cost you a lot for a long distance call .But of course you can always communicate thru emails and chatting,there you can even call and see each other.

Answer 6

if 2 people are really into eachother they can work however relationships can be hard work anyway without any extra problems. trust is the key with long distance relationships if you dont have that theres no point trying. there are ways to see people if you really want to sure there are sacrafices but it depends how much you want it.

Answer 7

You have to trust your partner but a lot of long distance relationships don't work.

Answer 8

Yes, it can work' for sure, you have to be very much in love , talk every chance you get send cards and anything else you can do to' keep you in his mind or you in her mind, see each other as much as possible, but keep each other in your minds and thoughts and prayers, also if you can be as honest as you have ever been with anyone, this is a great secret, honesty all of you fantasies everything that happens with others,talk is the other talk be honest, see each other as much as pos. there ya go'

Answer 9

a long distance relationship can only work if both agree they can go out with other people locally ( I am not talking sex, friends, but if sex happens keep your mouth shut ), otherwise long distance wont work,

Answer 10

TRUST, HONESTY, loyalty, faith, patience and of course true love. Chat, email, text message, call each other frequently, send gifts and visit each other whenever it's possible. Good Luck!