Is This True??

Question

I'm getting married i'm 20. Why does everyone say that if you marry at such a young age as mine, that we'll get divorced soon? Me and my fiance really want it to work. But will we end up getting a divorce soon?

Answer 1

Hmm i have heard that alot because your both young and the relationship may not be that strong..but if you really do love each other you can make it work..good luck

Answer 2

It's not necessarily true, of course. It's just that in modern times it's difficult for young people because people today don't get their act together until they are about 27-28 or even a little older. A lot of the problems come from the fact that while, for example, she's trying to become a nurse and you're trying to become a nuclear biologist, resources and time are limited and so you start fighting, and there is resentment, essentially all over money. So you should consider where you are in your professional development and have an understanding as to how you are going to satisfy both of you in those terms. You should also add a spiritual dimension to your marriage. Marriage is something that comes from God, and so don't leave him out of the process. Find a church, and get basic marriage counseling from a good minister. The divorce rate is high, so high I've lost track of the numbers, but it doesn't have to be that way for you, include God and have a clear understanding of how the next few years will play out.

Answer 3

If you have truly found the right one for you, then no you wont get a divorce. But just remember that both of you are still growing and changing. As long as you both work extra hard to keep in touch with each other, and grow together, not apart, you will be OK. I was married when I was 20, and from my experience would I go back and do it again....no. I would have waited until I learned a bit more about the world first. But I have some friends that are still going along as happy as can be and they were married young.

Answer 4

Oh sweety people will always talk lol...and the secrets to overcome this is by not listening to them ^^. Some are just jelous and others are just worried i guess..they might think that getting married at an early age will end up as divorce because that would mean a lot more years of marriage...but it depends on people. Some people have been happily married for 35yr and even though they married at a young age. Remember, it's definitely a probability but that doesn't mean it's a possibilty ;)
Just do what feels right for you and what makes you happy ^^
Take care and congrats.

Answer 5

Not necessarily. Any marriage can work given the proper steps and the right people. Communication is the key to any relationship. If you both are willing to work at making your marriage a partnership, you will be fine. A lot of marriages do break up when the people are young because the neither of them were ready. Things that you need to be prepared for are finances, housing, jobs, etc. The problems usually arise when the people were not prepared to take care of themselves. Usually at least one of them has to put their life goals on hold to be married, probably because of an unexpected pregnancy, and then the financial problems start because only one person is working, probably not a good paying job, and it becomes difficult to get by. Another thing that gets people is lack of maturity and life experience. Young people often get married instead of living their own lives. After a time, these people become resentful for missing out on their lives and the marriage falls apart. I wish the best for the both of you.

Answer 6

nobody knows what the future holds. just have confidence in your relationship. the two of you are the "pilot" of your relationship.getting married at such a young age need not mean u will end up getting divorce. in fact, u might even develop a much more deep-seated love for each other in the years to come since you will battle all storms together.just have faith.

Answer 7

Marriage takes work. If you want it enough to work at it, it will work. I was married at 23 and we have been married about 10 years. No sign of divorce on the horizon. You can't listen to what other people say about this. If you want it, it will happen.

Answer 8

You will be fine...but that prenup is something to think about. If he loves you, why does he want to protect himself and not you? When a couple marries they join together for better or worse. Well, why shouldn't you be entitled to 1/2 of the financial means that you both have worked so hard together for? My husband was very well off before he and I married, but he trusts me and thus, did not believe a prenup was necessary...His friends told him he should prepare one, but he told them I am not like that, he trusts me completely...So I think you need to look into this prenuptial agreement more Dougie, because this could make or break you if it doesn't work out...
By the way, now my husband and I are both well off together...you see how this prenup works? I think prenups are for selfish one sided relationships.(in some cases)..

Answer 9

It depends on the people - But I highly suggest staying married for 3-5 years before bringing children into it.

Answer 10

i was 20 when I got married, my hubby was 24. we have been married for 13 years and have 3 children. as long as you both stay committed to the relationship, there is no reason why it won't last. and by committed, i mean, both physically and emotionally. open communication and working as a team through the hard times as well as the easy ones.