I have 6 children and i am coming to the end of my rope, they dont seem to want to listen or show any respect?

Question

for my views, my decisions and my rules, it just seems to be a constant battle with them to get them to do anything without a fight, i have tried different parenting courses and nothing seems to be working, they are fine one min and then the next there is high emotions shouting stamping and back chat, i know i wouldn't have got away with it with my parents has anyone got any ideas before i go completely insane

Answer 1

Consistency is the key. Make a list of what you expect from them, keep it it a prominent spot (like the 'fridge) and what will happen if they do not follow it. When they break a rule, follow thru. It might take a while but in time they will get the picture. Do Not argue with them, just do it.

Good luck

Answer 2

Back in my days a large family was fun, however, after raising two children one now 25 and one now 4 it is my belief that when children test their parents it's a battle of wills and you must not let your children know your frustrated. You must let them know that while you love them your the parent and the more they act up the less you are willing to do the things they like. I only reward good behavior with things my kids like to do and make them stay at home and do nothing but clean their rooms and help in the house and yard and not allow them to have fun as bad behavior needs to be changed and hard work and respect go alot further then acting like a little child.

Answer 3

This might sound harsh-- but I have a HUGE family and none of the matriarchs in any branch of my family ever went for a bunch of kids not listening and straight up disrespecting....my grtgrandma had 13 kids and my grandma had 8 kids.....so my advise to u is to one day soon surprise all of them and go on a "rampage"(I don't mean kill them--there's a difference between a beating and a spanking) and start whupping some *sses! They will see that you mean business. One you get their attention u need to explain to them how u feel and what they can do 2 help u change that(what u expect from them). And when you issue threats --by ALL means FOLLOW THROUGH on them because kids love to test their parents and when you keep telling this or that is going to happen if they dont straighten up and then you dont do anything when they don't .....they will think "oh mom's not going to do anything --I'm having fun & i'm not listening to anything". U didn't mention where their daddy(s) is/are at........if he's around you need to make him step up and help u lay some law down around there. If not enlist the help of aa close family member or friend. Maybe a uncle or grandfather. Sometimes kids need some male influence around to get it together.

Answer 4

if they don;t respect your views decisions or rules and its a constant battle then they do not respect you or believe that you will go through with a punishment you need to start disaplining your children and if you say you are going to do sumthing you have to do it no matter how much you don;t want to you have made your rules a wishy washy thing for them they don't believe that they are actually rules but just a fine line that you would prefer them not to step over but they can if they are willing to deal with the consequences
(all teens go through this eventually) but it is much less of a job if you stick to your guns you have to be much more strict and maybe even put sumthing into effect where for first offence this happens grounded for 2 nites or sumthing 2 offence so on and so forth and you gotta hit them where it hurts nintendo whatever but if you say it you cannot change your mind no matter how much they beg or plead even if its a once in a life time concert then its too bad they should have thought of that b4

Answer 5

When you have tried talking to them, reasoning with them and pleading with them to behave, it may just be time for a good ol fashioned spanking. Many people disagree with this because they say "oh it is abuse", but they are the same parents with bad a$$ little kids telling them what to do, running through the stores and screaming at restaurants. It is NOT abuse if you smack them a few times on the hind end to straiten them out. I personally don't see the sense in trying to ask a kid to behave or beg them to behave. Which one is the child and which one is the parent? If you choose to not discipline your children this way, then don't bring them out in public where their bad behavior affects others. Also try taking their things away. Tell them if they act up, their video games are going to Toys for Tots, or their stuffed animals are being given to less fortunate kids. AND KEEP YOUR WORD!!!! If you tell them that if they misbehave you will give their toys away, do it. If you don't they will see you as a joke and never behave.

Answer 6

My mother is a mother of 5 girls, now that im 18 and having my own child i realized what she did with all of us. You have to try to be more of a friend to them but do not loose your sense of control, your children need to know whos the boss. If you have to disipline them stick to it, i found that the worst thing my mom did was ground me and forget that she did so. Hope this helps, good luck.

Answer 7

my mom is a single parent of 7 kids and we are like that too. since our older brother died and our dad left our behavior got so bad that we have a 7 y/o on Prozac, and hes gotten kicked out of 2 schools and a camp too. my mom had to put some of us in a residential home to try and curb use but it didn't work (not me im the most normal out of all of them) so she has plans to dump the kids who don't want to listen in a foster home. not that you want to do that but thats what my mom had to do.

Answer 8

Try disiplining the kids once in a while by spanking them or smacking their hand hard enough where they'll get the hint and quit controlling your life. You think 6 is bad? Your lucky. My brother in law has 13 kids to take care of.

Answer 9

children learn respect! Children are taught to listen! You need to get a handle on your obvious lack of discipline and I do not mean this in a nasty way. Children learn what they live!!!

Answer 10

Well...Time outs may work...You didn't give a lot of information about how you're disciplining and what they're fighting against. You could apply to SuperNanny.