Alright, i'm a teen with this guy who I love very much. He loves me too but is a person who makes a lot of bad choices. I try to talk to him about it and he says he'll work on it. Yesturday he called me to tell me he was going to this friends house, (a friend that can get him into a lot of trouble) before he left I made him promise me he would not get in trouble and would follow his morals, not his friends. This morning I got up to read my e-mail and he wrote "i need to talk to you, this is serious, i messed up big time." I knew something would go wrong and right now I don't know what to do. Should I talk to him, what should I say. I'm tired of being pulled into these situations.
2007-03-11 04:06:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are we talking "going to jail" trouble, or "not listening to his parents" trouble?
If he is doing things that could land him in jail, then stay away from him and end it. Several things can happen, like you going to jail with him one day, you could get physically hurt (or worse), or he could get you to do things like drugs, etc.
It seems like he does not care for you the way that you care for him, so leave him and move on. If he did care for you, he would have listened by now. And your to young to be his mommy! To him, your an equal, not someone to give advice because what do you know if your the same age as him? That is why he probably doesn't listen in the first place. He needs a better role model in his life. It seems like his parents are not on top of him like they should be.
I am not saying that he should do everything you want him to do, but if he is this careless now, and it is troubling you, then move on without him. He will only bring you down. There are many other guys out there that will treat you better and probably better for you! It is time to think about what is best for you, and not for both of you. Especially since he is not thinking about you in the same way. A relationship is not one sided. It takes two.
Plus, it also seems like he is abusing your friendship/relationship. He knows that you will always be there, especially if he knows you will forgive him. He is not respecting you! What next, he cheats on you and knows he can get away with it because you will forgive him???
Good luck!
2007-03-11 04:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by iofstorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships have their flaws and so when you have a flaw in your relationship you have to figure out after all the screw ups is it worth working on or should you and your significant other just call it quits. Whatever is in that e-mail it must be important or he would have to not told you that he needed to talk to you because he messed up after you told him to be careful and stay out of trouble. Find out what is in the e-mail, then talk to him again, and let him know that you knew this would happen again and that you warned him and why he would not listen is beyond you. Discuss whether working on the relationship is for you and him. It is going to be decided by the two of you not the United States. You say that you are in your teens well if you relationship does not work out then there is still plenty of time to date and find the right guy for you. As there are many there will be one that will be faithful to you and treat you the way that you should be treated. Right now you need to do the best that you can and hope that it will work out.
2007-03-11 04:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a relationship or are you his sitter. You have a lot to give to someone who is not screwing up and putting themselves in'bad' situations how long before you are unintenionally? brought into this, Keep looking you can really love tis person but can you love yourself enough to say this is the wrong person for me I am worth so much more than having someone go out a repeatedly mess up the relationship. is this a chance to avoid bad things in the future ? Maybe you have been given the gift to see what this person is realy like and the oportunity to do yourself a favour and RUN LIKE HELL!
2007-03-11 04:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is all wrong. Your not his mother and he's not going to listen to you. He needs to grow up and mature himself. He's not responsible enough to ever think about being in a honest relationship. If I was you I would think about this very hard, is this the person I want to settle down with, if not move on because you're just going to receive a lot of heart ache. Don't stress yourself out over a guy, your too young for all this drama. Enjoy your teen years....
2007-03-11 04:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by Shanee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ferny if he continues to make bad choices, one of these days you might be with him when he makes a bad choice and find your self in jail as a consperator. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you wont be able to chose his friends with out him holding it against you at a later date. Get out while you still can. Before his bad chioces affect the rest of your life. If you can get him to seek some conseling, maybe there is a reason his is taking these risk. Or to consult with a close adult. Tell him of your conserns for him, but you have to protect your self. I hope this works out for you.
2007-03-11 04:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by imblondie_lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from it...or you will be involved in something in the future...there are so many fish in the sea and if you keep getting him out of these messes that is what he is always going to depend on you for...It will never get better...I am sorry, but this is true...
2007-03-11 04:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SWEETIE, THIS IS SAD. YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG AND THINK, IS THIS THE LIFE YOU REALLY WANT? I'M SURE YOU CARE ABOUT HIM, AND WANT TO HELP HIM AS MUCH AS YOU CAN.. BUT YOU HAVE TO THINK OF YOURSELF. THERE MIGHT BE A DAY, YOU WILL BE WITH HIM AND GET INTO TROUBLE TOO. YOU MIGHT BE AT THE WRONG PLACE AT THE WRONG TIME.. PLEASE BE SMART AND THINK OF YOURSELF THIS TIME.. SOUNDS LIKE HE MIGHT NEED REAL HELP, THAT YOU CAN NOT GIVE HIM.. YOUR YOUNG AND HAVE A WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU, IS THIS REALLY WHAT YOU WANT?? GOOD LUCK HUN!
2007-03-11 04:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by kathy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing i will tell you i talk to him but don't join him in his stupidity theres no use of both of you getting in trouble eventually his getting in trouble with make him less and less attracting so just be smart and don't let him drag you into any thing OK
sorry your friend,ears,and heart
2007-03-11 04:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by itsreallyjlt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 12:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by linnon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are young,, get out now before you start yourself into a life of loser relationships, we are who we hang out with, hang out with losers and find yourself down in the dumps,, hang out with winners and watch how happy you will be
2007-03-11 04:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋