I don't want to lie to her and say no, but I also don't want her to hit me or anything, so what do I do?
2007-03-11 04:00:22 · 27 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you could say "i love how you look, even with a few extra pounds" and hug her and give her an awesome kiss.
2007-03-11 04:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by maggiemae821 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
very carefully and after you have put on the kevlar...lol.
kidding...
Ok, no matter what you say or how you say it...it's going to suck for you. It's ok to be honest, as long as you are not hurtful. Does the extra weight make you love her less?? I'm hoping you are saying - of course not. Tell her that...but you can also tell her the downside of gaining weight, the health issues and basically that you may notice her attitude in relation to the weight gain more than anything else. If she is asking you this question, she knows the answer..it's already affecting her...and she is trying to affirm that you love her regardless of a few extra lbs.
At this point you should probably repeat the I love you part a few more times. Like five or six times...lol.
If she is trying to make healthful changes...the best thing you could do is support her, encourage her..don't try and fix anything, but just be there for her when she is bitching about the weight..we women like to vent. Suggestions are good too..especially if you want to try and do healthy things together, like working out. This could be a really nice and sweet way to motivate her.
2007-03-11 04:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the next time she asks that question you could say " well honey you have put on a few pounds but yous still look very nice. She will more than likely come back with " Its more than a few pounds and i feel fat". Thats when you can say soemthing like " weel sweetie, if you want you can lose the weight that you want and I will be here to help you". It seems like a good way to let her know you love her and are willing to show love and support towards her.
2007-03-11 04:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets see i was always a 9 and 3 yeasr ago i started gaining weight i wen from a 9 to almost a 14 noone told me hey your gaining weight when it first started and i hate that, i couldve prevented it but thank god my eyes finally opened in the mirror 2 months ago and i saw my wight were other women close there eyes to there fat, and i have been exercising and eating right and i have lost so many inches and i feeeeeel great i only wish someone would have told me hey you gaining a little weight lately i would have stopped it back then just say look in the mirror nude and see for your self a full length mirror will do it.
2007-03-11 04:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she has gotten a little bigger but it doesn't matter you love her all the same. Then mention that if she wants to loose wait that you will support her and go to the gym with her and participate in her diets and exercising. Let her know that that you think it is a good practice for you and her to start eating healthy and exercising for health reasons rather than telling her to loose wait because she is fat.
2007-03-11 04:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say this... "Do you think you are getting fat?"....and why lie. Say the truth, "you are putting on weight...and it is not muscle". There is no way to "sugar" coat the truth. The truth is the truth. It is a bad question for her to ask. She knows she is getting fat and she wants to have people lie to her that she is not, because that "bad" mirror sure is not going to.
2007-03-11 04:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Che K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she is feeling fat or if her clothing is saying something to her, but don't say yes. Then make sure she knows that you love her, not her body and really mean it.
Honey am I too fat was my question. His answer was always no. I went to 354lbs. When I lost 170lbs I dismissed him as well. Show her this and tell her we will help if she wants to change.
2007-03-11 04:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell her in a nice way she has put on a few pounds, than say something like maybe we should go for a walk after supper it will help us both we want to live as long as we can and it will help us have some time to talk about things, and save our life. Then duck!
2007-03-11 04:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say honey u are def not fat! but u r getting a little bigger ask her if u can start going to the gym together a couple times a week
hope i helped
xoxoxox
2007-03-11 04:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suffer from obesity phobia. It is my nightmare to be fat. If I gain a pound, I starve until I lose it. Obviously, I am paranoid about my weight and my husband usually has the correct answer if I gain a pound or two. When asked, he replies "You look hot. You were too skinny before." Try that response.
2007-03-11 04:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by Blue Eyed Angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Louie, do NOT tell her she is getting fat. Possibly suggest some healthy meal choices together or going on walks or to the gym together. Nothing will hurt her self esteem more than you confirming what she already knows.
2007-03-11 04:04:50 · answer #11 · answered by blondecatty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋