How can i portray confidence?

Question

I am quite a shy girl and im trying to get over that slowly but was wondering how can i seem less nervous and seem more confident to people. As i feel sometimes that maybe people dont know how to approach me. I alo find that guys in general dont talk to me or ask me out or anything. I know im not ugly but i just want to seem more confident to people

Answer 1

Joanne, first of all you are a beautiful creature just like everyone else is. Unfortunately, portraying confidence is not that easy because you need to feel self-esteem from the inside first before it can radiate outside. Otherwise, it will be just for show. I wouldn't advise that you portray confidence, because it has to come naturally. Train yourself to be more out-going, this is the first step to pull yourself out of the shackles of shyness. Participate more in social activities and get the chance to meet other people. Best of all, if you want to win other people, you must have the ability to put yourself in their shoes. Understanding other people is key to opening them up. If they open themselves up to you, then everything else is easier.

Answer 2

I know how hard it is to be confident. I am the same way, I can be somewhat open if I know the people, but I am still nervous and unconfident on the inside. All you can do is give it time. Try setting yourself goals outside of your comfort zone each day. Like maybe, hug one person today, or talk to one guy today etc. As long as you stick to this you will slowly become more confident when you realize they won't reject you, just don't go too far. Figure out what goes for each person and such. You have to put yourself out there and make sure guys know you are approchable, talk to them first. Even starting with a simple "hey" and working up to conversations will help. :)

Answer 3

You just need to become more confident. The act of seeming more confident is actually being more confident. You can't be afraid to talkm to people, you need to get into the conversation and feed it with your opinions. Don't be afraid to voice what you think! Don't be afraid to show people who you are, get out there and show people what you are made of! The sooner you learn to do that the better off you will be. Confidence is something that will help you in every aspect throughout life. People don't know how to approach you because you are too nervous to talk in a conversation, most likely. If you are so quiet that people barely notice you you just have to speak up. I knew a girl that was like you, I never talked to her until she talked to me one day, then I found out what a cool kid she was. Get out there, it's never too late.

Answer 4

Smile at people and make eye contact. As for being confident, act 'as if'. What is meant by that is act as if: you know you are looking good, you know you are equal to everybody else in the room/situation, you are an intelligent and interesting person. If you can do this (it gets easier with practice) other people will believe it, never mind you might be a mass of insecurity underneath - many people are not as confident as they might appear. Take a deep breath and hold your head up before entering a room/situation. Good luck.

Answer 5

If you are in a situation that you don't know the people, act normal you may be nervous inside but if you act confident on the outside people will see you differently and the more you act like that the more you will become confident.

Answer 6

Unfortunately the only way to get over shyness is to brace it. Confidence comes fro mexperience so get yourself into a postion where you can try your skills and just go for it, it will feel awful to do at first and you may not even go through with it for a few times but you don't want to regret anything later on so make sure it is something that you really want to do and go for it!!

Answer 7

Maybe if you get one of those special FOTO sessions where they make you over. I know you said you're not ugly, but obviously, you don't believe it. So, after receiving you're beautiful FOTO, display it somewhere in you're House and daily, look at it and tell " IT": i look good, i like myself etc.... This is called, self hypnosis, if regularly practised, (can be done by looking in the mirror), eventually you'll come to believe it.
Once you're a believer, you're ATTITUDE will change and confidence will come. Once CONFIDENCE is with you, you will PROJECT SUCH and you're problems will be solved.
IF YOU REALLY WORK ON IT, YOU'LL GET RESULTS, BELIEVE IT!

Answer 8

dont portray anything,be confident that u r important to thefunction of this world, there is absolutly no one who is more or less important as u...the only way to feel good about it is to be it ,dont act it.. u deserve as much as anybody in this world..believe it and u will b it..

Answer 9

Make eye contact and smile at people. Say hello or comment on the weather. Give others sincere compliments; if you like his suit, say so, or if you like her hair, say so. People love to be recognized for the things they put effort into.

Answer 10

aww you remind me of someone. I want to give you a hug.

Just look at people when you talk to them, if you can't manage the eyes then look at the lips but keep your head straight.

Oh and don't rub your hands or fingers together when your talking to them, it shows nerves.