I have been w/my b/f for 3yrs.I want to be alone now.but i don't want him to hate me and i still want to be friends.What should I do?and how should i handle this?
2007-03-11 03:33:19 · 19 answers · asked by jacks20_20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just like you told it here. Honesty is the best policy always
2007-03-11 03:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are a wonderful person. You recognize whats going on and what you want to do. That is why when you get married you will be there forever as you think and enjoy what you want. My opinion, you just tell him like you told us. I think you are a great guy; and I enjoy you and your company tremendously...but I would like to step back a bit and explore a different side of you as a friend. I do not want to lose you, just my own space....
If you tell the guy that and allow him the freedom to do the same, most of the time the first reaction is hurt and disappointment but then they understand and will have tons of respect for you at least you did not run around on him.... If he questions why and all that...do not make anything up...just tell him you would like your space...and please stay loving...that will make him understand that it really is not his fault.
Good luck
2007-03-19 03:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that after three years together, you think you need a break. First have a talk about what you wanted before. Maybe that has changed. Maybe that was never discussed. It's easier to stay friends if the person sees the break-up in the context of a lot of other things, not just a personal rejection.
2007-03-18 09:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "with"? That you go to movies together or you've been living together? It's hard to know what to assume about people anymore. Anyways, if you've been going out together for 3 years it's probably time to fish or cut bait, as they say. Nothing is liable to change, except maybe you'll get pregnant. You can probably expect life would go on the same as it is, and you'll just get older. By now you should be thinking about taking the next step, and marriange and everything...If you haven't then he probably really knows the relationship isn't going anywhere either.
If you've been living together, same as above, except he's probably pretty happy with life as it is (or he'd change it already) so he is going to be very upset and that's all there is to it.
Maybe when both of you find "the right ones" and get married to them you could go ahead and be friends again...but then your spouses would understandably be worried!
2007-03-18 20:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do right now is be very honest...he will appreciate your honesty even it might hurt him. You have a better chance of being friends if you are brutally honest to him. Just explain your feelings of the need to be independent right now and he should understand and let you go...if you really thought about this and you are sure this is what you want to do, then telling him the truth shouldnt be a problem for you. I know its hard, but be real to your own heart and be strong...GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2007-03-19 03:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by Shanni1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try 2 understand urself first. u cant break up with him and still ask him not to hate u n be ur friend. thats unfair. if there is no love between u then talk frankly with him n end up and leave him in peace to live his life. by asking him to be ur friend and not to hate u for leaving him u are being selfish... be true 2 urself, if u want 2 be alone u should not care about his reaction and in case u do then ... Do u really want 2 b alone ?
2007-03-11 03:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by TUS 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, that is a long relationship you should just tell him that we should see other people but let him know you still want to be friends and want to stay in touch. That is what I did know I have a best Guy Friend
2007-03-19 03:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by In_Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a very hard thing to do you have to pick the way you think is the best i did it my way was i just had to leave becouse he just wouldnt let go so what i am saying just do it and and do it fast leave dont look back until all the pain is gone it works i am really good with my x now but i wasted 10 years trying to do it dont do what i did
2007-03-18 22:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is nothing wrong with that but you have to be sure that that's what you really want and stick to it. He is going to want a reason and you just have to sit him down and be as honest as you can be b/c if you stick in a relationship that you no longer want to be involved in then it is going to start to get ugly. if you guys have a pretty good relationship then it shouldn't be hard to break it to him
2007-03-18 15:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and see what you two can work out......Although none of my relationships that I have had ended up as being friends..We would say we would be just friends but then we ended up sleeping together or being jealous if the other was haning out with someone new even if they weren't dating. It was all messed up whn my ex and I broke up and we were just friends. So we called it quits completely after talking about what was best.
2007-03-11 03:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by josiesmom305 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you need some space and time to sort out some things in your mind. And ask him for forgiveness for doing such a thing, and that you still want to be good friends with him.
2007-03-11 03:37:46 · answer #11 · answered by Soaring 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋