2007-03-11 03:30:29 · 14 answers · asked by Zefram 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Personally I think that spanking teaches children to hit. I have three children 7,5, and 2. My husband and I have never spanked them, and they're all very well behaved. When it comes down to it, my children would probably prefer a spanking to some of the consequences that we have set in place. Ie., my oldest would probably pick a spanking over losing video game priviledges for a night. Research repeatedly shows that spanking is the least effective form of discipline. Hitting anyone is wrong. Spanking is a very lazy form of parenting.
2007-03-11 04:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by bresmama 3 · 4⤊ 4⤋
YES!
But lets not confuse spanking with "beating".
A spanking is a few taps on the but followed by a fitted punishment.
A beating is using another object to cause abusive pain.
I view spanking as the 'corrective jerk' for kids. When you train your dog the corrective jerk is used to correct a behavior or attitude so the dog will follow or obey commands.
Verbally we talk to our child voicing what is right or wrong. But sometimes words are not enough. I only use spanking when my children obviously disobey such as doing what they wanted to do or were told not to do because they wanted to. For example cutting school, swearing, fighting unless self defense, etc.
This is the only time I use spanking.
But if you use consistent discipline and provide unconditional support then spankings will be very rare and few.
With my children it is the fear that intimidates them the most. They know when I am playing and when I AM SERIOUS. To be honest this is all it takes.
Having discipline and care can be the huge difference between well behaved kids in public and wild out of control rambling, embarrassing kids.
Now you decide!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-11 16:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by ANJANETTE C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it isn't okay. Spanking lowers IQ, teaches children to be sneaky, causes aggression, anger, humiliation and lowers self-esteem. It teaches that it is okay to hit and brings you to a lower level morally. Just because people were hit as a child does not make it right for today's discipline. People who spank are the less educated ones. The people think that there is a difference between a spank and a beating and claim to do spank out of love not anger. They also use the saying "Spare the rod, spoil the child." Realilzing that hitting is not biblical. We have 3 children and never spank, we just find other alternatives such as removing privileges and time-out which work quite well. And quess what? Our children are very well behaved, respectful, happy and confident. They don't fear us and will grow up to prove that they were not spanked and turned out awesome. It is all positive! It just takes brains and alot of love. How do you spank out of love? Children are human beings, not apes.
Anyways, that is what I learned through experience working with children professionally.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 15:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't think you need to ask! It's your child. Does the punishment of spanking impact them for the reason?
Meaning taking something away or upping your ante is better.
Personally I think it's better to do those then big people hitting little people. However it's your house, your child -
If you find spanking works for you - so be it. I think taking away things they love, or love to do has a greater effect then a big spank -
2007-03-11 11:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by kelly e 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No ..dont spank them. You want them to think that they can do whatever they want and the worst that will happen is they cant play the XBOX for a night. Never spank them , then they know they can say anything to you they want, even cuss you out and the only punishment is they cant watch TV tonight.
Never spank them, then when ( if ) they ever leave home, we as tax payers can support them thru our Jails and prisons. we always need more orange jumpsuits to clean the ditchs and pick up trash.
2007-03-13 01:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by MIKE L 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I tried everything non physical first. The idea of spanking my son didn't sit well with me but as time passed and nothing else worked I had no choice. As parents, we have to discipline our children for their own sake. If one thing doesn't work we move on to try something else. All children respond differently so you need to find what works best for your child. As long as you are calm when spanking and in control of yourself so as not to over do I think it's fine. A couple of spanks on the bum is more shock value than pain and it usually works. You are responsible for your child and his behavior it's up to you to figure out what works best with him but please remember .... never , never strike them anywhere other than the bum. good luck : )
2007-03-11 12:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you need to take the child over your knee and pull both their pants and underpants down to their knees. Then, calmly, but firmly assert to them why they are about to get spanked and procede to beat their butt for a good five minutes. If they have been extra bad, follow up with a hairbrush or belt to their bare *** for another 20 or so strokes. Kids these days need to straighten up and fly right. good luck!
2007-03-14 22:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by whitechocolate 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes as long as you only spank and not beat
2007-03-12 01:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by hollidayfun@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, use all methods, including spanking
2007-03-12 03:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
yes i have learned through my question and i think what oldschoolmum does takin them over your lap is agood metheod
2007-03-12 14:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by kt 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋