what about this?

Question

okay a couple og Q's :
1. Do you say "no..." but you really do want him to do it, but you dont want to ask... Like your sad, and you bf says do you want me to come over? you say "no, its okay" but you want him to come anyway. Is this wrong?

2. is it wrong to want to know how he feels and for him to say it? Not because he is dating you so he doe...
3. want him to do things without asking them, because when you have to tell him it feels like he did it because you told him to...

Do you get what i mean?
i am not very good at relationshio.. please help!!

i dont want to sleep with my bf (only know him for 6 weeks)

I meant saying "no' but really wanting him to do it anyway,

sorry

Answer 1

I think I'm losing the will to live.......!

Answer 2

To me you do sound very insucure , you poor girl , I dont mean that out of pity , but I can understand how you are feeling. try and relax a little more with your b/f. If you want to have some hanky panky , well let things go without words, kiss him undo his shirt buttons and he will soon know that you are ready for making love. When he ask's next time would you like him to come over to see you , before even thinking say YES , dont think of anything else , there you have SAID it, and say that would be nice. Then put some nice music on quietly in the back ground , get some wine or what ever you drink , ask" would he like to order a dvd" for you both to watch, or "ask if he would like a chinese meal or an Indian meal." Try and take the lead a little. In time as you both cuddle up on the sofa , he will start to say things like , you have lovely eyes or I love you smile , but a lot of men take a long time to say I LOVE YOU. Be a little patient with him, say nice things to him too like he has a fit body and run your fingers through his hair, he will say " oh thats nice". And hint , dont ask if you would like him to do some thing around your place for you ,say if it's the shelf or some thing like a leaking tap , say "oh one day I will have to get that seen too," as your eating your meal not in bed lol. Or when your cuddling up together. It may amaze you that he will say , he will do it for you, there's no need to get some one in!! Try these idea's and I hope that they will get you both closer together and be able to communicate better in the future , never rush things, good luck . x

Answer 3

If she says no, remind her that you've always been told that no means no, then re ask the question. Tell her that men take words a "face value" and are not good at reading between the lines. This should prevent you from getting into too much trouble in the future. You can always fall back on this "remember when I told you....."
That way it's not your fault if you miss the clues of what she really wants from you.

Answer 4

To Q.1 it's not wrong but misleading. He would be delighted if say yes though showing him HE is the one to comfort you, especially that's what you want in the first place. 2. Neither is wrong that he hasn't said what you want him to say or you want him to do something & actually ask him to. It seems that your relationship is still fairly new. Given time & with honesty about each other feelings you will soon experience telepathy instead of uncertainty.

Answer 5

1. i wouldnt "do it" until you are married, or you might regret it. and i think that if he offers to come over, if thats what you want, you should take him up on it.
2. no, it isnt wrong, just ask him, and return the favor by telling him how you feel.
3. if you give him a little time i'm sure he will start to do things for you without your asking. boys can be a little slow sometimes ;)

Answer 6

Talk to him hunni tell him you want him to be more spontaneous and do things without you asking him thats the only way he'l know how you are feeling - if you dont talk he wont know - its good to have %100 communication in a relationship because if you don't then you wont get any where. Be upfront and frank don't hold back. TALK

Answer 7

You are not very good at asking a question either, slow down and ask one question at a time.
To be honest you are over thinking this whole situation way too much. If you want him to drop you off at night then just ask him, he is your boyfriend so you have a right to do that. xxx

Answer 8

1. Do you say "no..." but you really do want him to do it, but you dont want to ask... Like your sad, and you bf says do you want me to come over? you say "no, its okay" but you want him to come anyway. Is this wrong?
this is just immature ! ! !.......you have to mean what you say, and say what you mean ! ! !

Answer 9

Your dangerous
I'd drop you like a hot potato..
You are saying 'Yes' you want sex...then scream rape in the morning cos you decided you did NOT want it after all..??
Any guy who goes near you deserves to go to jail..just for stupidity.

Answer 10

the first one is right for me...the second is right for me...and the third one is right for me...ya i think i get what you mean..but just remeber everyone women is different and wants different things..but i think ur on to something..thats like on ur way to becoming a perfect gentleman..and besides there are no rules in a relationship..except don't cheat or anyhting in that region...thats bad..trust me

Answer 11

better out than in

girls are often confusing and contradictory. it's not just you. but for a guy it is really annoying.

get it off your chest; tell him what you mean. otherwise, if there's a misunderstanding, you'll only have yourself to blame.