This girl and I have been on two dates in the past month and talked for a month before going out at all, so we have known each other for two months.
On our second date she told me she is not seeing anyone else, only one person she likes a lot. There are other hints that she wants more like inviting me to church but two weeks ago she had told me it will be a while before she will be able to committ to anything TOO serious because she is afraid of getting hurt again.
Normally I would say that two dates is too soon to say I am only seeing one person right now, but is it too soon in this case since she told me that already? How can I say it in a way that does not scare her away or trap her in some kind of premature commitment? Speaking of which why all the mixed signals? Is she ready or not?
2007-03-11 01:51:56 · 12 answers · asked by Jamal J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She told me she doesn't make out until in a relationship and yet we do make out passionately, but her myspace still says single like mine????
2007-03-11 01:59:47 · update #1
just hang out with her for a month or two and if you and her are in to each other ask whats going on. If she seems kinda stand offish keep your options open to other woman and don't stick to just her or she will play with your head.
2007-03-11 01:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you like this girl and want to be with only her? Then you go for it.
Why do so many people think that showing interest in a girl you are interested in is going to scare her away? You know when it doesn't work- when she doesn't like you enough to commit. If that's the case- cut the tie and move on.
Do you really think by pining over one woman while she feels free to explore other options is going to make her want you? NOPE! Women want to see men who take charge and lead- not get led around by a woman who has to act like the man in the relationship.
Turn the tables- tell her you don't want to get hurt and you're not sure if you want to commit, but something about her makes you feel like you do want to commit. AND DON'T TELL HER ITS BECAUSE SHE'S HOT! Tell her it's because you can tell she puts the feelings of others first, its a hot quality and rare. You like that.
You know the best way to get over one-itis? Get with 12 other girls and see if she's still the one.
2007-03-11 01:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by toburn41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mixed signals: She really likes you and wants to go out with you. But there is another part of her thats scared. I dont think she really knows if she's ready or not. If you are going to ask her out, i do have a suggestion. Maybe take her to a private place that she is the most comfortable at. Tell her how you feel, maybe gently take her hand, and tell her that your ready to move to the next level, and that you would do all in your power not to hurt her. Dont tell her that you wont hurt her, because somethings are just unavoidable, but tell her that you will try your best not to. I hope that helps.
2007-03-11 01:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your getting mixed signals because SHE is all mixed up herself! there is SOMEONE who is mixing her up. they probably fight and make up, when they fight, she wants to get more going with you. when they make up she doesn't. but she doesn't want to let you totally go, because she's not sure about the other relationship. at this point in time you are 2nd choice. so, don't get yourself emotionally invested with this girl, your heading for a big hurt if you do. you might also want to consider the fact that this girl is the type that will cheat, since she's obviously cheating on the other guy with you!
2007-03-11 03:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by JEANNE B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like she isnt ready to have a bf, just give her some time and maybe ask her out like to little things and see how that goes but still just wait for her to be ready.\
Good Luck!!
2007-03-11 01:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by me_yes_me5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop talking to other woman, and keep talking to her, if she isn't trying to get things on the ball after a while move on to the other woman you have been working on
2007-03-11 01:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is ready to start a relationship. maybe not one that is too serious though. try maybe dinner and a movie, but not much physical contact until you are sure you really like her, and she likes you.
2007-03-11 01:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her how you feel. If you're not ready to commit then don't.
2007-03-11 01:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by blcria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds a bit hesitant. you could let her know that you aren't seeing anyone at the time, too.
2007-03-11 01:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants more time to think it through, if she is really worth it, listen to her feeling and what is going on and give her time.
2007-03-11 01:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by inesp01 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋