ever since yesterday my mom just turned totally over protective. I have a good idea why though. My dad had to go to another state for a week to build our new house. When he left- let me just say, it was complete HELL. My mom made me take care of the dogs, clean, cook EVERYTHING! my older sister has a friend and she must of gave him my screen name online so yesterday he was talking to me. He really freked me out... because he said he was my sis's boyfriend and he seen her naked. I had to tell my mom. Ever since that, my mom wanted to se my profile on AIM and everything... now she wants a screen name and it's really annoying. She has been watching me like a hawk when I talk to my friends and shes really getting on my last nerve. I know she is just trying to protect me but what can i say to her that will back her off? I'm not a bad person!
2007-03-11 01:47:40 · 13 answers · asked by bella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She wants you to be safe. There are bad people in the computer wanting you to have sex with you. Your just lucky to have a nice mother that cares for you. There are some people who don't have a mother. If it bothers you so much you could talk to her about it. She just there to help. Be happy for what you got.
2007-03-11 01:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best advice that I can give you is to let her do what she wants to do...i know that sounds lame, however, if you have nothing to hide then letting her watch what you do for a while should prove to her that you are doing nothing wrong. Talk to her and ask her why she is doing what she is doing. And what is up with her making you take care of everything? Is there anyway you can contact your dad and tell him what is going on? Also, I would talk to your mom about your sister sharing the chores.
I can understand where your mother is coming from though...the Internet is a virtual playground for freaks and she just wants to make sure you are being safe. God knows I wouldn't want anything to happen to my daughter.
Good Luck
2007-03-11 01:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by Eric D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dint think whatever you told yr mum she will listen. The best way is the action. You have to show her that you are really not a bad girl. Just do whatever she ask you to do, by obeying her she will notice that you are a good girl. She just need some trust, that's all. To a mother, A daughter like something so fragile to handle. that's why she will over protective on you.
But if you did show that you're good, you really can take care of yourself, by doing everything that she told you to do, you are capable of taking care of yr self, you really can handle problems. She will be less protective less worry and more trust on you. Try to show to her that you really worth of being her daughter.
2007-03-11 04:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest i think that all parents should review there childrens online activity. While you did do the correct thing by telling your mother about your sister she is going to react in this way for both your safety. have patience an if you arent doing anything wrong whats the harm. As for extra chores around the house she needs your help because she doesnt have your father there just imagine how your father an mother feel doing it everyday.
2007-03-11 04:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh i am so sorry! my mom does the exact same thing. except with myspace not AIM. she wants to see who ALL of my friends are ALL of my comments and ALL of my pictures. and everytime she sees someone she doesn't know she is like 'omg who is that?!?' and it soo annoying.
all i can say is you have to sit and talk with her about it. but don't do it in the morning especially if you are like rushing to get out of the house. also dont do it when she is in a bad mood. but tell her that you are a responsible kid and you know who not to talk to. ask her to trust you and tell her the friends you usually talk to on AIM. she might not listen the first time but keep trying. i know what situation you're in and it is probably the most frustrating thing in the world. good luck.
2007-03-11 01:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by jen. (: 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, because you sound too young to be on ine in the first place. Also, appreciate that your mom is trying to look out for your safety. Some moms don't care and that's how little girls meet preditors online and get raped and killed. She's just looking out for you and your sister.
2007-03-12 10:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Ruthie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bella, your mom is just looking out for your safety. The internet can be a very dangerous place for teenagers. Also, what is so wrong with cleaning up after your family pets, and helping with the housechores? It is everybody's job to pitch-in.
2007-03-11 01:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by Guess Who 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are grown enough to handle yourself and that you will tell her if you need any guidence but she is being to over protective . Then tell her not to take it the wrong way . Good luck .
2007-03-11 04:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
haha thats funny how u told ur mom about ur sister.. umm wat race r u cause my sisters have to do that too. u have to been tough and cold to ur mom and make her reliaze that u have respect for yourself and you wont let any 1 take advantage or mess around with you and to trust you.
2007-03-11 01:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by teddy bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. This will blow over after a while.
2007-03-11 03:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋