often the victim is unwittingly enabling the destructive individual to carry on with his deviant activity. Usually one refers to an alcoholic family in this way.
2007-03-11 01:26:15 · 4 answers · asked by goldsteinj 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Codependence (or codependency) is a popular psychology concept popularized by Twelve-Step program advocates. A "codependent" is loosely defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for persons who depend on him or her.
2007-03-11 01:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by boombabybob 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
definitely co-dependence because this is a self-perpetuating
relationship not unlike the energizer bunny - it just keeps going and going and going until some behavior is stopped, usually as a result of one of the people being forced out of the relationship legally by divorce or restraining order.
2007-03-11 12:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enabler, I was in an abusive relationship, to the point now I'm going deaf and will, and didn't say anything to anyone, for years and was too scare to leave and finally my family saw all the bruises and such and I started crying and still to this day after 18 years of divorce he won't admit he did this, and we are battling it out in court about him paying for our two kids in college, which I never wanted them to know the real truth about their dad, but, they testified against him, they knew it all along, and thanks to my family supporting me, I got out of it, and it hasn't been easy as they have threatened me all these years they would kill me, and they still might, but, I'm free at least now, and if I die, know my kids will be safe...and also, he was and still is an alcoholic and drug user, shoots up, and I was called an enabler and there are groups for all of this stuff, and it's hard to do, to admit to others why you enabled them to do the things they did to you or themselves and you let it happen without getting out, and though it took me years before I got out, I was just too scared, and women beaten by spouses don't want to stay in these relationships, and people that havn't lived through such a thing as any of these things don't truly understand why we stay in them, but, it can be from many things, like their self-esteem is brought down to the ground by the one they are enabling making them feel like they are worthless, they have nowhere to go, the other person controls their every move, as mine even controlled my eating and made me anerexic, would take food from me where I couldn't eat, and people thought I was just starving myself to be thin, but, when I finally got out, my self-esteem flew sky high, I became a complete different person, and here I am 18 years later battling it out in court, with deputies surrounding me protecting me against him, but, his family is so powerful, they are all connected with the law and such, but, finally I have a judge that isn't in with them and their money and such, and my kids are at college so at least they are away, and everyone knows if something happens to me now, he's the first on the list...it probably has more than what I'm saying but at least this gives you a little insight as to what goes on with the people that are being hurt by the one's hurting themselves, and often, they blame the enabler for their problems and habits, when it has nothing to do with them, but, they are either sick mentally or just down right heartless, and it wasn't me that stuck that needle into his arm, or poured that glass of vodka or me hitting him, but, he controled me so much, I was so naive and scared I didn't know what to do and will always be grateful to my family seeing the bruises and helping me get counseling and supporting me when I had nothing but two babies and no money, car or anything, they helped me get on my feet and now I'm beter off than he is....hope this helps.
2007-03-11 10:14:28 · answer #3 · answered by Confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an example of domestic violence and domestic abuse.
2007-03-11 10:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋