I fancied a person for some time, but thought I had no chance as he was better looking than me. However we ended up going to London together for a conference, discovered we had loads in common, and became friends.
Last night we went out as a group of five, and had a lot to drink. Everything was a bit hazy, then he kissed me. I passed it off as a joke, until it happened again, and I spent the night at his place (perfectly innocently- it hasn't gone past kissing.) In the morning I woke, and naturally thought that he might regret it. I asked him however, and he was said he didn't regret it in the least, that he'd been interested for some time.
However he has a lot of issues with intimacy having broken up just weeks before. He says he is not on the rebound, but admitted he could make no promises, and there is a mutual friend in common who I worry that she would rather not see him with me. How can I discuss these issues without him, without claiming too much intimacy, too soon?
2007-03-11 01:21:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anya D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also is it appropriate to text him the next day, and perhaps arrange a meeting, or is that too formal- as we will definitly see each other on Monday?
2007-03-11 01:28:59 · update #1
To the person who says nobody will believe we didn't sleep together, I can assure you it is the truth. We went back to his place, taking the sofa, so our friends could have the bed, and cuddled up and fell asleep. Next morning I stayed until 1pm, and we simply kissed and held hands.
2007-03-11 01:30:52 · update #2
Loosen up and let the chips fall where they may.
Don't force a relationship, but don't run from one either. Sounds like you two really adore each other. Let time do what it will.
2007-03-11 01:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by docelec2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love takes time.
That discussion maybe what he wants to avoid.
Every time flirting happens, 9 x out 10, the woman wants more details. Just jump in. Don't sweat it. Maybe act like your not that interested. Make him chase you. Try something different with him because he sounds very intriguing.
2007-03-11 01:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intimacy takes time trust ,faith and hope w/ an understanding of that person . Doesn't mean you have to agree but ...w/ time you will trust each other to be able to explain your past. Be patient
2007-03-11 01:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by harlot j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone with an objective opinion to discuss it with. If you try to discuss it with him right now you are going to push him away.
2007-03-11 01:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think he was honest when he said he couldnt make any promises.and if you slept with him, you should know that no one here wil;l believe it if you say"Nothing Happened"
2007-03-11 01:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it, Theres nothing to loose.
But if your not ready dont.
Its your own judgment, Its a natrul thing.
2007-03-11 01:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by Tom M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a diccusion that he talks most not u, have in a cool atmosphere
2007-03-11 01:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by antish_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are just as good looking as him and i have not seen him.its what is inside that counts
2007-03-11 01:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its perfectly normal?
2007-03-11 01:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by Janie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋