i never meet any immidiate family of my bf for almost 8 yrs. I just spoke his cousin over the phone, and i met her cousins wife and son lately. And i keep asking my bf before when the time i will meet his family and he said, i will. Actually his family doesn't know that i am exist, because he is seperated, and he has a priest brother that i am sure wouldn't agree to our relationship. Although i know where i am, but i still envy some friends having good and open relationship with their in-laws and i feel pity to myself. And last year i found out that his father died already, his friend told me over the phone. He never told me.I was hurt and i told to him when he had a vacation.I think i am not really belong to his family. I have so much pain here in my heart regarding this matter. I think i am really a kept woman.
2007-03-11 01:00:34 · 3 answers · asked by pink_blossom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
opss sorry i forgot, he is orphan already. No more parents both are gone. He have 2 brothers left.
2007-03-11 01:51:52 · update #1
You are not a kept woman. You're obviously sensitive to the issues involved, which is a good thing. The best thing you can do is take your bf by the hand, sit him down in a cafe, or somewhere where he can't avoid the question, and very gently ask him why he doesn't want you to meet his family.
He will squirm a bit, and protest that it isn't true, and all you need to do is soothe him, and tell him that you feel a bit left out. Reassure him that his family will not change how you feel towards him, even if they are nasty you will still care for him, and give him the chance to tell you about any issues he has with his family.
Tell him you feel a very little hurt, as though you aren't good enough for him and his family, and if he is worth anything he will leap in and defend you to the skies. Thus it is the perfect opportunity to invite his mother to tea or something!
Good luck with it
2007-03-11 01:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anya D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meeting your bf's family and relatives is scary but i would want to meet them still. I know what you are feeling. My ex-bf doesn't want me to meet his family... i felt like a kept woman also. We were together for 2 years.. and then i broke up with him. I feel that i deserve to be introduced you know. A guy should be proud to introduce me to the whole world!!! Goodluck!!!
2007-03-11 01:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by carlota_2312 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are problems he has with his family, he might be trying to protect you from them. Some men are overprotective, especially with how thier family treats their significant other. He may also not want you to know what his family is like because he's afraid it will reflect on him. Maybe he thinks they don't deserve to meet you.
2007-03-11 01:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by Pahd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋