I'm 18 yrs old, would it be a wise decision to date someone older than me by say, 10-15 yrs?

Question

I'm in the military and i'm looking for a woman that would be able to understand the nature of my line of work and i believe that a younger woman would not be able to fully understand that there will be times where i will not be home alot and i will be working late on some days. I really believe that an older woman would be more mature about this situation and we be able to take care of herself if something happened i.e; relocating overseas

Answer 1

you have to consider more things than that when deciding who to spend your life with. Are you really going to have enough in common with a woman 15 years older than you to make the relationship work? Also some older women can be just as immature as younger ones you really should base who you date on personality not age because any woman who really loves you will support you completly no matter where your career takes you.

Answer 2

I agree with you that most women younger than you would not be able to handel the situation. I don't think that someone 10-15 years older than you is the answer. Maybe you should try 5-10 years older than you. Aslo some people are more mature than others. I am 1 year younger than you and I understand how hard that can be for a woman. I wouldn't be able to handel it but I know some girls that are around my age that could handel the situation. just because things are dificult don't automatically asume that a girl can't handel something because of age. you never know what people have been through until you get to know them.

Answer 3

Well why don't you find someone within the military that way you know she would understand your line of work. I am sure there are alot of women your age in the military you just haven't found one yet. As for finding someone that is older than you that doesn't always mean she would understand your line of work. As for relocating an older woman may not want to do that as she may already have family and a career where she is and won't want to leave. So you have to think of that too.

Answer 4

At the risk of sounding like your mother....no, I don't think it would be a wise decision. I think at 18, even though you're proudly serving your country, and because of that are likely more mature and worldly than some men twice your age, you are still probably not ready for what a 30 something year old woman is looking for. I would say to try finding either mature women your age, (I know its hard, I am 24 and I am ashamed of what some young women are like these days!) or perhaps one just a few years older. You might not think so, but you're still young, you're traveling the world in the military, and you should try to enjoy your experiences. If you don't, you may regret settling down too fast once you're older, and thats what most 30-something women are looking for. Relax, take it slow, and enjoy being a young adult with other young adults!

Answer 5

Well I'm 19 and in college and personally I know about 4 girls who are currently dating guys who are in the military. I think 3 of their boyfriends are currently overseas and 2 in Iraq. I personally think that they are dealing with it very well. They are understanding and communicate with their boyfriends through e-mail and phone calls. So it is possible to find someone around your age who will understand the constraints of your job. But if you want to date an older woman that is alright too. I would warn against dating someone older just because you think she will understand better though. You may also run into the problem of not having a lot in common if you choose to go older but I also know couples who are making the age difference thing work. It's really just about finding the right person for you. So my advise would be to ignore the age and just look at the person.

Answer 6

Don t worry about age difference. maturity has to do with a person s soul and Not there age. My ex-girl was 13 years older then I , and I thought she would be mature, But she wasn t. She didnt understand things any more or less then those of a young age. She cheated and though all the evidence was there, she still denied it.

I learned. One, that age is no matter with relationships. And Two, I m keeping my heart locked up tight . The pain hurts too much to even talk with anyone again.

Answer 7

not at all, but don't understimate younger women's understanding regarding your line of work. I was 19 yrs old when i have 33 yrs old bf. And i fully understand when he is busy working and when the time that he can't be with me because of his busy schedule. There is older woman that has immatured thinking too and vice versa. The decision still at your hand. If you fall to a woman older than you then go for it. I still believed that age doesn't matter in love.

Answer 8

No person could ever understand your line of work if they have never experienced it. If a woman told you about childbirth you would never truely know how it is unless you were the one having the baby. As for being gone and etc. some girls would understand and be okay with that. Theres this saying I read a while back that goes "How can I miss you if you never go away?" Well it's true. Girls like free time and not having someone always around. It might help out with the relationship too...from personal experience when I am always around someone ALLLLLL the time it makes me push them away and that swhy people need "space" you start getting irritated and noticing bad habits and its like if I wanted this I would get married, but if your gone then your sweetie starts missing you and it makes the world of a difference.

Answer 9

I think you should not worry about age and just worry about finding a compatible, passionate and caring soulmate. No matter what her age she will understand if she is the one. But if you feel strongly about an older woman than you could give it a shot if you are attracted to and older woman. I wouldn't date a woman that was any more than 5 years older than you though. 18 is too young for a woman that is in her mid thirties. Good luck.

Answer 10

Its hard to be a military spouse no matter the age. I've been one for close to four years now. And it is a strain to want your husband there and know he can't be. I am very proud of my sailor and have followed him around the world. Old or young discuss any major moves with them before accepting orders (if you have the choice). And i know you haven;t found her yet but when you do get her involed in your units Family Readiness group. I wouldn't say you need to date someone that is much older then you as long as your honest upfront about what it entails to be dating a military member. Good Luck

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