im a single mum who is very happy.. ive been on a few dates with one guy, he is very nice about the same age as me, we get on and we have fun. also i have just been on another date with another man. he is a little older, more directed in his life and knows what he wants. i am now in the situation where i like them both and dont know how to pick between them. how do i choose?
2007-03-11 00:53:12 · 14 answers · asked by jem 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
write down what it is you like about each with reasons one a separate bit sof paper then read it through. If you mainly like the one guy beacuse of security reasons, but the oter one makes your belly flutter I would go with the guy who makes you flutter as you can always create your own security together but may live to resent being indebited to someone elses.
However this being said, if either was the right guy you wouldn't be looking at the other....
2007-03-11 00:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the older one of course...I'm sure you can sense he's more mature compared to the younger one...You need to check which of these 2 men who can shower you with an everlasting love...put a bit emphasis on the way they bring up children and see if they can be good daddy and love both you and your kid(s) for who you are...don't make any decision hastily but give yourself some time....after all, these are just dates...just wait till they say something about the relationship on where it's leading both of you...well, some women prefer to go out only with the man whom they think can give a more promising future
2007-03-11 09:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The beauty of being single is that you don't have to choose -- that is, if you're being honest to both about dating more than one man. You have an agonizing decision to make if you're looking to choose one of them, though. Go for the guy that you have the most fun with, whoever that is. If the older guy is capable of loosening up on a regular basis, I would suggest him.
2007-03-11 09:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by lilcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of factors that will need to be adressed. Is he good to your child? Does he treat you with respect? Is he stable in his career? Write down a list of what you are looking for in a man and another of the things you won't tolerate. Then apply each of these lists to the men you are thinking about. See who weighs in the best. Most importantly, take your time and don't jump into a situation that could be bad for you and your child.
2007-03-11 09:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by docelec2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at the moment you are still getting to know them both so you don't have to choose right now.
Just keeping doing what you are doing, go on dates and get to know them more. Eventually you will become more attracted to one of them and then you will have your answer.
You have to keep your options open right now while you are still just dating so don't make any harsh decisions you might regret later on!!
Good luck xxx
2007-03-11 10:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a bit of time out to consider what you actually want from your potential relationship and your future.
Don't see either of them for at least 10 days, and work out who you miss most, and why.
If you can't choose, then maybe neither of them is right for you.
There's no rush either way.
2007-03-11 09:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and write 2 lists for each..one pro and the othe con. Whoever has the most pro's then give them some thought. Also which one makes you feel the happiest. Which one makes you smile the most. Which one gets along best with your child(ren). Good luck!!
2007-03-11 08:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you choose on what you think will be best for you and what you think will be best for kids/family/home life you want to have fun but you also want someone that if the time comes and you need them they will know what to and be there for you in the right way
2007-03-11 08:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by skizmo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go where you know you and your kids are going to be happy. Its still early stages yet so go on some more dates, have some fun and you will soon know where you want to be. good luck
2007-03-11 08:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by bobbi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats simple the first guy is he worth the work it will take ot help him get his direction? is the older guy worth taking orders from? but comes down to who makes you smile form ear to ear. i guarantee both dont
2007-03-11 08:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋