She didn't marry me and is now seeing another and refuses to give my ring back
2007-03-11 00:06:37 · 13 answers · asked by Willie in Las Vegas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most jurisdictions consider an engagement ring a gift, so she is not required to return it.
Some places consider an engagement ring as promissory, representative of an agreement to be married, an oral contract of sorts
If it were quite expensive you cld go thru the judicial system to see if she can be deemed "at-fault" in in the break up (i.e. it can be proven that she had no intention of following through with her verbal promise to marry you because she had been in a relationship with someone else simultaneously, for example...or some other obvious situation where her lack of intent can be identified) its possible that you cld get your ring back thru a legal process, or she wld have to pay u the money for it (or a portion) if u have receipts and she fails to produce, or is unwilling to produce, the product
however, if u are talking about a few hundred dollars ring..just let it go....while you might go thru a legal process to get it returned, the amount of money you have to lay out for representation would not be beneficial towards recuping the money from the ring
I've been engaged 2ce. Ive returned the ring. No big deal. It was given in the vein of marriage, we're not getting married, so here's your ring. All very simple. All very neat. I kow other women who have returned the ring too. Now they may have thrown it, embedded it in a pot of dirt, or some other gross thing. BUT it was always returned. The ONLY women I personally know who did not return rings were women who were being absolute @sses and sold it, or pawned it...pretty much just because they were unscrupulous women who were more concerned with either financial gain or just spiteful and vindictive.
If thats what happened to your ring, you are far better off without this woman and happily have not yet married her. Beuase later she would have taken not only the ring, but your home, car, kids, and the dog too. You got off easy and have learned a lesson.
A friend I know now says never buy an expensive ring for a woman, but a nice conservative smaller, inexpensive diamond. Something u can let go if the stuff doesnt work out, that you will feel alright letting her have as a "parting gift". When the wedding day comes, surprise her with the real "bling" at the altar, upgrade her ring then when she had truly been upgraded form just GF status by the actual marriage taking place...not just the promise of it.
2007-03-11 00:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by kinduvabrat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then your fortunate she didn't marry you. In the case of broken engagements it is proper to return the ring. She isn't the kind of woman you would want to spend the rest of your life with. Think how greedy she would bring up your children, take, take, take all you can in life...Boy she must really be something. Why would she keep it, each day look at it and know who gave it to her, once she marries someone else the guy certainly doesn't want her wearing your ring, so she'll pawn it and get money. Don't get discouraged with other woman over this, we are not all alike, honest....Take her to small claims , hope it wasn't a rock!!
2007-03-11 00:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We actually saw a court case about this very issue recently in the US. The short answer is no, she can't keep the ring. A wedding ring is a conditional gift, and the condition is that a marriage actually happens. If she doesn't intend to go through with it, then she can't keep the ring. This may vary somewhat dependent on what state you live in and how much the ring is worth. Most importantly, it's exceptionally bad etiquette.
2007-03-11 00:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's considered good form if the woman breaks off the engagement, for her to return the ring. However, if the man breaks off the engagement she can keep the ring. Legally, it's a matter of contention because even though it was a gift, it was a gift given on the condition of marriage. I don't know if taking her to court though would be worth it financially or emotionally for you, though
2007-03-11 00:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by Cybele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you paid for the ring and she broke it off, you should get it back.
If you broke it off, she should be able to keep it, regardless of who paid.
It's really about the "injured" party getting something in return for being hurt.
2007-03-11 00:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by T C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its good to know that her intentions was of fraudulent nature. If she is not returning the ring then its better you take some legal action against her.
2016-06-09 03:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by raymond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has to be a mutual decision like sell the ring and split it both ways.
2007-03-11 00:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She cant keep it if she is dating another man!
Tell her to give you it back because you brought it and you have the right to get it back
2007-03-11 00:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jade L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just charge it to the game. Consider lucky you dodge that marriage bullet. Go out and get smashed and celebrate your freedom.
2007-03-11 00:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so she got the ring. so what?? you got off easy considering all things.
she could have married you, made you miserable, divorced you, and take your car and house, too.
count your blessings.
2007-03-11 00:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by jeffrey m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋