My great aunt passed away this morning and I've never met her and I was going to the nursing home with my mother when my mom called my great aunt's daughter who told us not to come because she passed. I fekt no tears i didn't know this woman but I feel regret and loss and I don't know why. This great aunt's other daughters have photos of "Mommy"(my mother's mother) that they threaten to destroy and I hope they don't and mayeb thats why i feel a loss, a loss of hopelessness. Anybody ever feel like this, it bugs me. I feel like I missed out on something especially since I grumbled about waking up early to see a woman who was going to keef over. I maybe feel regretful because I insulted her?
2007-03-11 00:01:36 · 6 answers · asked by Sage 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you've got it exactly right, it's regret for not having another chance and having blown it by not making it there before she died.
It can also be the realization that death is so permanent (I don't mean that you didn't know that before, but it may just be sinking in emotionally). It can happen when you suddenly come face to face with death even if you weren't close to the person who has passed.
2007-03-11 00:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you feel this way because you know that people you love will feel a loss through her death. don't feel regretful either , you didn't insult her. I work at a nursing home and people pass all the time. family always feel so much regret for not being there as much as they could. it just happens. at the end of old peoples lives they are like infants again, they really don't know who all have been there to see them and how long they stayed. good luck to your family. and make sure they don't destroy those pics
2007-03-11 00:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by princess1226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called your Guts! you feel bad because you were grumbling about waking up to see her and also because you insulted her and then when you did wake up to see her you found out that she was dead and you didnt get to see her.
Its nothing that you should feel bad about.
It will pass by you before you know... Although that you said that this women's daughter has pictures of your Grandma I would say try to be nice with her for a while and get those pictures.. It will be nice as a memory!
2007-03-11 00:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by alice_nobleandkind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A death always makes us feel sad, even if the person is not related to us, and more so if she is.
You suddenly realise the ending of something and that that person is there no more for you to contact.
My family is lost to me, and I wonder if suddenly when I die, they will start feeling bad because they left me alone all these years....and they will...that is the way of life.
My advice...get to know your family while they are alive ..there is always that sense of loss when they go...
2007-03-11 00:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Maggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These feelings are on behalf on your mother because the photos hold so much sentimental value to her
2007-03-11 00:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is very normal for your situation. Maybe you can help other people that also feel that way, and take time for older people that are still living.
2007-03-11 00:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by supertop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋