when i was little there was this boy who lived down the street from me that i used to play with sometimes. and when i was 8 he said it was a game and it ended up with he touched my private place, and i had to touch his thing, and he was older than me so i pretty much did anything he told me, and he made me play that sometimes for like two years until his family moved to colorodo. and i know that if a grown up did that it would be sexual abuse, but since he was a kid too, was it still? he was 11 the first time.
2007-03-10 23:31:54 · 18 answers · asked by shadow of a girl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi Shadow, that also happened to me, but the boy was the same age! I also feel that he sexually abused me now when I think back on it. Lots of kids play that way, they see it on tv or maybe walk in on their parents and think it is a game. I think he was just curious and I dont really think he was being sexually aroused by it. I'm glad I found you again.
2007-03-13 03:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Shrek 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any One Who Forces You Do Anything With Privates Is Sexual Abuse.....Especially If You Were A Kid And Could Have Ended Up Hurt....The Last Thing That Should Happen To Anyone In A Free Country Is To Be Sexually Abused And If You Let Him Get Away With This He Will End Up Hurting Other People On The Excess Of Raping,Murder,Anger To Comply. So Do The Right Thing.....I Hope It Turns Out Good For You And Yes pj_12_75 You Are Right.....And The Person Who Said She Wanted To.....He Was Older And Could Have Probably Harmed Her So She Was Only Complying To What She Could Which Was Very Little Or Nothing >:( So Get Some Real Advice That Is Truthful
2007-03-11 07:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was forcing you then yes, it was abuse, but it could have also been exploration. It's likely that someone molested him and he was repeating the actions on you or he could have just been curious. 11 is a curious age.
If you feel as if you were violated in some way then I'd say maybe you were abused. 2 years is a long time. If anything further than just touching took place, then your answer is def. yes.
2007-03-11 07:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The kid probably has been abused himself, by that age, he is thinking it's normal to play with it with someone. You need to find out what effects it had on you - perhaps a loss of personal power over many things. You will need to get all this past abuse out of your system by talking about it to someone professional or even a layman at a reputable church.
2007-03-11 09:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by thru a glass darkly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you dont say how old you were at the time this happened you mention that he was 11 and that you were younger...it could be sexual abuse but its possible it wasnt intentional on his part. he could have just been curious as a result of seeing other people doing this people doing it to him or he was just starting to come into puberty. if you really have issues with this and you think that it is starting to cause problems if you relationships then you should probably go see a counselor about it
2007-03-11 11:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Morganna 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No doubt that this boy had to be taught this type of behavior. You were both vivtims of sexual abuse. Please get some help.Talk to a counselor or therapits. You need to feel better about yourself.You made the first step in comming here today. Good luck!
2007-03-11 09:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been looking at some of the questions you've been asking.
You need to get some counseling. I wish you the best, but Yahoo Answers wasn't set up to be a crisis clinic. You know? :( It's not meant to be a replacement for therapy in real life. This is not healthy.
2007-03-11 07:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it was not sexual abuse, or 'abuse' of any meaningful sort.
While the age of accountability may vary from person to person, it should be rather well accepted (and somewhat obvious) that someone who has not completed puberty and has no more than a juvenile understanding of 'sex' would have the capacity to molest anyone for sexual purposes.
Even if the contact was unwanted, it is no more 'abuse' than an 11-year-old shoving his 8-year-old sister... while it is, certainly, not acceptable behavior, it is, or should be, expected.
2007-03-11 07:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by KensterFox 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I wish this unpleasantness had not happened to you.
The really sad thing is that the boy may have been abused himself. Children tend to copy what they see. He may have been abused by someone older and he was repeating the behavior with you.
2007-03-11 07:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by pj_12_75 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it was, and this boy you mentioned most obviously knew what he was doing. Kids don't just go telling other kids to 'play a game' that touches one's private parts. Most of them instinctingly know that it is a shame to to that (whether they were taught so or not).
At the age 11, most kids already start to experience sexuality.
2007-03-11 09:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋