i really need some help here. there are two guys one called henry and the other max
they are bothe really cool but henry is two years older than me and doesn't really know me and we haven't talked yet but he plays the drums and he is just so cute
but
max is really sweet he is the same age as me and he talks to me all the time we are really good friends, i don't know what i should do?
stay with my dream henry and hope someday he will talk to me
or
max my sweet friend who i think i like a bit more
2007-03-10 23:14:58 · 15 answers · asked by Pastinie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The classic plot of every single romantic comedy ever made. "Girl x is having a predicament, she meets a guy that is in a band. While meeting the guy in the band she has a really good friend that is a guy and he is the same age." Thinking of this from a standpoint of logistics and in efforts of full disclosure i must say that i am the "sweet friend" character. I am now 20 years old and have seen this same thing happen time and time again. You seem like a nice girl and you just have to realise that if you were to choose what is behind door #1 "the drummer" you may feel like you have made the right decision but in the end you will ALWAYS wind up bac with the best friend when the premiscious drummer winds up giving you an STD. So my suguestion is instead of following the entire plot of the romantic comedy by picking henry and then winding up madly in love with max you should just skip to the end of the script and make it a real "Cinderella Story".
Just My Two Cents,
Richard
2007-03-10 23:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Henry, communications is 99 percent of a relationship although that last one percent is pretty darn important too.
Max may look good, but if he can't communicate he isn't ready for a real relationship yet. This is not to say that he will never be ready, it's just that people learn at different rates.
In marriage your partner doesn't get to keep their looks and you are left with the person inside. Jane Austin in her novels wrote extensively about what real love is and brought out this point over and over again. It's not possible to continue to love someone you married for looks and when the looks go you don't like the person inside.
Conversely if you love the person inside your love will grow and evolve over the year, it will be a real thing that two people share.
2007-03-11 07:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say go for max...dream henry may not treat you with the respect and care max would, girls need affection, safety, warmth, which i believe max can offer you. if he talks to you all the time it means that he likes you for what you are, you are good friends with him, and that;s the basis of a relationship, i always believed it is best that your bf is first your friend, and the your lover, so that you will have trust in the relationship...and closeness. follow your heart, and don;t go for the one who seems cooler, just because. :)
2007-03-11 07:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by vehrim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go with Max, simply because you already know him.
Yeah you think Henry is cute but considering you have never actually spoken to him and you dont know him, if you get to know him and hes a jack a*s then you have lost both of them.
2007-03-11 08:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there...
It says, guys are about 2 years behind a girl's maturity. I believe its better for you to go with Henry.
He'll love you in a true form. I think Max is just after for your looks. He doesn't love you.
Be a woman. Go to Henry and tell him about your feelings. There's nothing for you to lose. If he says, "No", then its his loss. Not yours. (But I'm 200% sure he won't say something like that)
All the best honey!
2007-03-11 07:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by Toyota Lover 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I had almost the exact same problem.
I was asked out but this gorgeous boy in my grade who is liked my everyone and I got together with him.
Then my crush from September and he told me he liked me alot and so I dumped the gorge and got together with my bff. I know it seems cruel but ehy be with someone you don't really like and don't know so much about.
I would go with Max.
Good luck
2007-03-11 07:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you already have a relationship with max,might as well go for him. or are you prepared to make the effort with your cute henry?
2007-03-11 07:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by CHARLIE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Henry is cool , ''bad'' dude ,but I think he isn't in to serious relationships any way,But from the other side you don't know is Max ready for this too...I dunno ,if you like max more then go for him... x)
Good luck-you'll need it
2007-03-11 07:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by loserville_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U better stick with MAX... drummer or good looker won't be a better patner than a person who really knows u well and stays with u... so don't endup in wrong relatioonship.. don't go by face go by character
2007-03-11 07:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by sheeru_ksa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You said you liked Max a little bit more, so I say follow your heart!
2007-03-11 07:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by Cara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋