I need some legal advice or opionions or previous experiences ANYTHING!
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When I first met my boyfriend (now baby's dad) I wore kinda hoochish clothes. Just a little belly showing and lots of tank tops and v-neck shirts. After the first few months of being together I became pregnant with our son. (I found out a little while after our son was born that he did it on purpose) After then he totally changed everything about me I was forced to dress (no offense to anyone) like a 50 year old bag lady. He snipped all of my thongs. He told me I couldn't talk to any of my friends. I could talk to family over the phone and they could come visit me but I couldn't go anywhere with them. In fact I couldn't go anywhere without him period. I stayed at home while he went out with his family and friends. He was verbally abusive always calling me names and telling me that I was nothing and that I was useless without him...continued
2007-03-10 22:36:38 · 12 answers · asked by evil_munchgin420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Now that we had our son. He is even worse. I kicked him out. He rented an apt downstairs from me. I have a child support case the 27th of this month and I don't want them to say I can't leave the city or county whatever. He watches my every move I cant even check my own mail without him threatening me. I have no family or friends here. No one to help. I want to relocate but am scared the attorney generals office wont let me. I am going crazy. I turned my ringer off cause he was calling non stop. He has a key to my apt so I have to keep both dead bults locked. I know hes talking to other girls but he said if he finds out I am talkin to anyone he will kill me..and hes crazy enough to. He is bipolar and isnt on medication. He is abusive and out of control. He has taken our son 5 times already and the cops wont do anything.I called CPS and they wont help me out. Its even worse on the weekends when he drinks. I need help!
2007-03-10 22:55:37 · update #1
The car is in his name. No luck there.
2007-03-10 23:42:05 · update #2
LEAVE NOWWW!!! Trust me . I married one and it gets worse.
2007-03-10 22:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my opinion is to hold on till the 27th and then you will know more of the legal aspects of what you can do and not do as far as moving, etc. 16 days of doing nothing is possibly the best thing compared to saving your life and that of your childs' life. possibly say and tell him what he wants to hear up to a point (till the court date). Call the police each and everytime he causes trouble and threatens you..they should have to make a report at the least i would think. This will be in your favor whenand if the time comes..If you have absolutely nobody at all you can go to or stay with, then please do not hesitate to RUN when you get the chance after the court date ...to the nearest shelter or church that is open and there are people around of course. Across the country if needs be. Almost everyone has some sort of family member to call that will help them for a day or two. If this abuser is not touching or hitting you, then keep to yourself till the court date is over.
copy and paste this website and call them asap..also look up domestic violence on the web and call numbers till you get help in your town or state...
http://www.snbw.org/dv_faq/abuse_hitting.htm
2007-03-10 23:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find another place to live as soon as possible. Until you find someplace else, call the police each and everytime he threatens you, or follows you around. They will make a report each time that they are called to your house. Believe me when the time comes for the visitation court date it will come in handy. Also, have someone you know very well, hopefully a big guy, stay at your house with you. That way you have someone there if anything should happen. Do not tell him where you are moving to because he may follow you there as well. You may also want to think about getting a restraning order against him. When you go to court ask if the visitation between him and your son can be supervised. After everything he's done to you, he may do something to hurt your son. Good Luck. Hope everything works out for you and your little boy.
2007-03-11 04:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont want to start this off by say that you had some say in what you wore after you had your baby. BUT YOU DID.
He has a key to YOUR apartement.? CHANGE THE LOCKS.
YES, DCF can do something about him taking the baby. Also so can the police.
What you need to do is get that baby get into your car of on a bus or a plane and get away from him. Go to the nearest relitive that will help you.!!
The only experience I can give you that I have had with old boy friends is they act the way they do CAUSE THEY CAN..!!!
Take a bat to his head and know him out a few time and he will stop. But that was just me.
What you need to do is get away from him.
When you have your court date make sure you tell them evey thing that has been going on. Bring in police reports and DCF papers showing that you are wanting their help.
Good Luck.
2007-03-10 23:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional abuse is very difficult to confront. Be careful in addressing your issues with him as it would seem he can be potentally violent. Think of your child and seek legal advice on where you stand (legal aid is free). Further, if you've no where to stay look at womens shelters around your area. These places are able to advise you where to go etc. Also, look at what phone services are available to give you advice on how to deal with this creep. Good luck. No one deserves to be treated this way, you don't want your child to learn this behaviour is ok.
2007-03-10 22:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of there as fast as you can! Get a restraining order. Go to your family. They will be there for you. You're problems with this guy won't get any better. If he wants visitation, make sure it is supervised. Don't trust him. I wish you and your son the best of luck.
2007-03-11 01:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your family and tell them to come and get you. And send the biggest males in the family to help you move out. When they get there, have them knock on the b/f's apartment door for a "little friendly" chat.
2007-03-11 00:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a friend means understanding when to step in and when to stay out of each others business. i think if the situation gets anymore serious, you're going to have to sit down and talk to her. if she doesn't understand, she has some growing to do & you have no control over that.
2016-03-28 23:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez that was my former bf i guess lol
well but yes my x is eactly the same as urs thats y i ended up our relationship but in ur case since u have a son u better take care of ur relationship with him, u just need to talk to him heart to heart dont let him hurt u and dont let him make u feel ugly....go girl and good luck
2007-03-10 22:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by 00_tyradjh_00 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get away from this creep as fast as you can! Often mental and emotional abuse escalates into physical abuse, possibly towards your children as well as you.
leave him NOW and get a restraining order if you are afraid of him or think he might get ugly about it, they do not cost you anything. Value yourself and your child enough to get away!
2007-03-10 22:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by bambi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go to ur parents! be strong. get your life back ! dont ;care if he is the baby's dad . just leave.
he will ruin ur life..
i hope u will be fine so .. honestly.!!
go now .
i cross the fingers for u
call the police if u need to .
2007-03-10 22:44:34 · answer #11 · answered by juju 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋