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2007-03-10 20:59:44 · 13 answers · asked by madhu g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can love them both. Accept each if they come to you for support, but also try to quench their fire that they have toward each other. Be their best friend, after all, the one is your soulmate that you had your child with, and the other is your own flesh and blood whom you bore with many tears and with much joy.
Love them both and don't take a side, just hope that they can reconcile and learn how to accept each other's differences.
2007-03-10 22:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not provded enough information for anyone to answer that. Perhaps nothing. How old is the son?
One thing is to ensure the mother and father present a united front. If the mother disagrees with the father, the parents need to discuss this rationally AWAY from the son.
2007-03-10 22:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Gillian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother should separate them for some time and talk to both of them separately. Try to understand each other. Actually quarrel is not the right thing for any solution. Sit together and talk peacefully on any issue. All issues can be solved by talking and understanding.
2007-03-11 04:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by J.L. S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife alway gets in between the two of us, and we both just look at her and wait for her to move out of the way. Neither a father nor the son really want to hurt the other, so you will be doing both of the macho idiots a favor by giving them a face saving way out. Take the position of "enough is enough" and simply tell them both to stop. They really want to stop anyway, they just don't want to lose face. Both will thank you for the intervention eventually.
2007-03-10 22:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by blogbaba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the f**k out and stay down!
You don't want to pick sides on this. You'll kill your marriage or your relationship with your son.
Be ready to mop up after the dust, and the blood has settled. Then bang both their heads together for being so stupid.
Then spell out to them where they went wrong, and say to them in no un certain terms that you expect them to deport themselves from now on as gentlemen.
The Iceman.
2007-03-10 22:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by The Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 19:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by yau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question really depends on who is starting the quarrels and whether or not they are physical. Sounds tough regaurdless. Best wishes.
2007-03-10 22:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by DizziDazi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes...I find it's easier to just leave beforehand so you don't have to listen to how ugly and maybe physical they may get with eachother! If the son REALLY deserves it, he needs the disclipline only his Dad can give (yours wouldn't have nearly the effect his will). Boys need strong disclipline to keep them in line and out of gangs..so don't stand in the way and hinder the process, remove yourself and let em work it out. They will!
2007-03-10 22:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by crazynays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the father is molesting the boy, stay out of it and let the man raise his son.
2007-03-10 22:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Big 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at that point of time she should forget that she is a mother or wife
she should look upon the situation and see who is correct
i know its difficult to choose between son and husband but thats how it is
2007-03-10 22:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by catrina a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋