The problem is that my boyfriend is starting to tick me off.
or actually it isnt him thats ticking me off, more like the things he does.
He leaves the house all day and just drives around with friends, leaves and doesnt come back until really late/early, plays games on the computer& xbox all day, and doesnt help me do things around the house.
If I have errands to do that take me half the day I still have to be the one to come home and make dinner.
Or like if theres dishes to be done I have to be the one to do them.
we have a daughter together also.
so if the house is scattered with toys or whatnot I am the one who ends up picking them up.
only when I ask him to help me with something will he do it.
why cant he just do it without my asking?
and what could I do about his behavior?
whenever I try to talk to him about it we end up arguing.
I feel like if I need to do something, I need to plan it around whatever he's doing.
I just can't pick up and go like he does.
2007-03-10 20:52:13 · 13 answers · asked by lady_luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes I feel like a "baby-sitter" for him so that he can just do whatever he wants, whenever he wants.
If I leave our daughter with him he just plays the movies that she likes to watch and goes and does whatever in the other room which i really hate when he does this.
suggestions would be nice
2007-03-10 20:54:40 · update #1
his job was seasonal so right now he has been getting unemployment and that is our only means of money right now. because I have looked for jobs EVERYWHERE and no one will hire me.
2007-03-10 20:57:55 · update #2
I have tried just leaving the housework to drop some kind of hint to him but he doesnt seem to get it, cause then everything that I leave just builds up. then of course I am the one who ends up doing it when it gets really bad.
2007-03-10 20:59:38 · update #3
When you two are alone ask him "Why do I do everything?" Yes it might get into an arguement but I will help! Then talk about you doing all the work in the House and he goes out to hang out with his friends and leaves you alone with all the stuff to do in the house. Then straight up ask him!! "WHY DO I HAVE TO ASK YOU TO DO STUFF IN THE HOUSE? THIS IS BULLSHIT ALREADY!!" G.L lol
2007-03-10 22:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could provide your bf an ultimatum. If he cares approximately you extra effective than his ex he will injury off all touch together with her. If no longer then go away him, i'm sorry he of course has emotions for her if he doesnt chosen you over her. in case you dont experience like that in simple terms civilly yet affirmatively say to her. he's no longer your boyfriend anymore, please stop getting jealous, enable me and him in simple terms be happy and in simple terms pass on..wish it particularly works gl!
2016-11-24 20:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by andrades 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he's taking you for granted. Dont let it girl..try to divide the chores half. Give him the list of things that he's supposed to do. Tell him to finish all that everyday. If he tries to argue with you, dont do any chores for many days or dont do any chores for him..like when u cook, cook for you and your daughter only. While doing laundry, leave his clothes. Do things like that..so perhaps, he can change.
Try it
2007-03-10 22:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow he really does treat you like a live in babysitter/ slave. How about you tell him to clean his act up. Dont do things for him like wash his clothes etc etc... he sounds so lazy and irresponsible. I for sure would not put up with it. He needs to share the load and also by the sounds of it act like a father not a freeloader. Good luck.
2007-03-10 20:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are enabling his behavior. Stop cooking for him, stop doing his laundry, stop picking up after him. He isn't going to change until you a) confront him about it b)stop doing it for him and c)if he doesn't want to. If he expects you to do all of those things then you need to give him expectations as well.
2007-03-10 22:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to start helping or else you are leaving him, if he doesn't straighten up, really leave him-if he doesn't beg for you back, move on with your life. Are you sure he isn't cheating? Who drives around all day?
2007-03-10 22:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by sss_1122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, and oh yea we have a daughter together. Just throw that in.
If he's too lazy to marry you, what makes you think he's gonna get his butt off the couch to do anything else?
2007-03-10 22:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by joey k 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free? he has no job? doesn't do a damn thing in the house? sounds like you don't need him at all.
2007-03-10 20:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boy friend is very imature i doubt you have a good future with him think about your future 4 your daughters sake
2007-03-10 22:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mississippi's Jersey girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife writes me a list. No sex until it's finished
2007-03-10 20:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋