i get these FANTASTIC guys; sensitive, caring, loving, not violent, etc, but after a month or two, and i just want to strangle them to get away from them. considering a few weeks ago i was about ready to marry them!
they are my dream guys! what the hell is wrong with me?
2007-03-10 20:36:44 · 14 answers · asked by african_woman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im with a really gr8 musician. all sensitive and writes poetry and whatnot.
i've had a badboy, and a really, really good one, i've even had a girl or two.
im 26 now, and i should think that i know what i want out of life. and my muzo seems to fit the bill. but all the cuddling and lovey stuff (that used to be all gr8) is now pissing me off. i dont even find him attactive anymore. and he used to drive me wild!
2007-03-10 22:17:54 · update #1
Why should there be something wrong with you? "Love at first sight" is often wrong. You're very fortunate that it doen't take long for you to figure out that a person just isn't right for you. Don't knock it. You could end up married to one of these people that you really don't like. Try to restrain yourself in the next relationship. You're going overboard for all the wrong things. Concentrate on the things you have been avoiding such as what kind of character the person has. Learning that does not come over night - it takes a lot of time and patience to figure out if the person you have just met has any really worthwhile traits.
2007-03-10 22:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by pianofritz2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because 'good' is a relative term...I'd have to say, if that's supposed to be a good guy, he'd bore a woman half to death in about 15 mins! You definitely want a guy who's fun and a little naughty at the very least, rather than a priest with no vices.
Heaven is described by many as a place where peace, harmony and a flock of angels flit around on gossimer wings, with halos on their heads and strumming harps in awe of a God on a golden throne; whereas hell is supposed to be a 24-hour party of debauchery and punishment for your sins of demons whipping people in pools of sludge and horrible scenes of stoking eternal flames in gigantic furnaces. Given the choice of the two, which would you pick?
2007-03-11 06:07:41 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U maybe just over too sensitive and may not be liking excess of attention and maybe tht is the reason when somebdy starts caring about u too much u feel ill and want to break free!
2007-03-11 05:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by nitro_khan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because like most women the last thing you really want is a decent guy.
Like when women choose the bad-boy then act surprised when he hits her or cheats on her. I'm starting to suspect you all do it just so that you have something to complain about.
This isn't rocket science. If you want a decent guy, choose one. If you want a bad-boy, choose one. But don't pretend you want one when you are going to choose the other. At lease be honest to yourself.
2007-03-11 05:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a mixture. A guy who has his own life, independent of you, has many interests, sport, travel, etc etc. An active person. Not a SNAG or a BAD BOY, just someone who keeps you interested with spontenaous action. ANd finally, someone who treats you like a woman!!
2007-03-11 07:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by kruzen54 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These guys probably worship you to much. You probably need a guy that has his own thing going besides you. Or maybe you just need a mystery man. A man that is challenging for you. A guy you know that likes you, but you just can't quite figure him out.
2007-03-11 05:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by Waldo Waldo Waldo! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two possiblities.
1) Many women are only attracted to jerks. when they have good men, or perfect men, they will feel bored n drive them away. Bcoz these types of women love adventure and excitement. Maybe you are one of them. (in fact seems like i'm too)
2) maybe you dont love him. Thats y your heart isn't accepting him eventhough your brain is. You subconscious mind is drawing you away from him.
I hope it helps you.
2007-03-11 06:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered talking to a counselor, I think you have some intimacy issues and once those are cleared then I would focus on a relationship but not until then
2007-03-11 05:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad as it is: I genuinely believe people like to play the "victim" role and it's not being presented to you. There's no drama. I would say become happy with yourself. Apparently it isn't there if other people can see it.
2007-03-11 05:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by this_rare_eclipse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your time and explore other sides of him you have not b/c it takes more then a few weeks to really get to know a person. also take your time and figure out what you really want
2007-03-11 07:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by SunShine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋