Why are women afraid to say "no" to men directly?

Question

I usually do, and I got such rude speeches in return and such abuse that it's enough to kill a horse. I say "no, I am not interested", and explain why, as it stated to be a polite way to reject a man, and never say things like this when others can overhear, but... "You are in ugly prostitute anyway..", "I spit at your ugly face...", and "You are one ugly b.." were the mildest. I told that man I was not interested because he was old (59), and he got my e-mail address from a business card and sent me 56 insulting e-mails, I read one and it made me cry, it was so humiliating, and insulting...
So, maybe women are right to avoid saying "no"?

Answer 1

Stay away from sexual no situations until you know someone a few months and are interested.
If you are in a club or bar, and they are trying to pick you up, try the didn't I see you with your wife
at so and so's party-- I'm here waiting for a few of my friends, nice meeting you. Don't be afraid to introduce yourself politely, don't insult them,
and keep things short and sweet if you are not
interested. You never know, having a few extra friends never hurt anyone--unless they are just hot
under the waist guys--

Answer 2

I've had a few run ins with rude men who couldn't handle rejection, but that's no reason not to say no. We shouldn't have to be subject to that kind of abuse. It's not women who are at fault here. It's these specific men and until these pathetic souls learn to respect women I hope they hear nothing but "No." Over and over again. Disgusting. When these types of men insult you like that, just be glad you didn't say yes! I doubt they'd treat you very well even then. Don't be upset over it. They are the ugly pigs not you! Hopefully you find a good man who treats you has a person and respects you fully.

Answer 3

We can't win.Anyone who would say such horrible things is lashing out at rejection not necessarily you. You hurt the man's ego so he wants to hurt you. Print out those e-mails and sue the bastard for defamation of character. And just because sometimes a guy can be a jack-*** no female should feel intimidated to do what they don't want to.

Answer 4

NO. if i ask someone out, i want either a yes or a no. anything else is just insulting my intelligence, as if i won't recognize a "no" if it's too polite...i mean, come on! i think that a woman that says a straight yes or a straight no is the best kind, because at least if she turns you down you know she's not interested and it's not for some other dumb reason. don't change a bit and just ignore insulting bastards. oh, and what kind of an old ****** cusses you out because you don't dig old men? send him a virus;)

Answer 5

I don't think it is that they are afraid. More that honesty just doesn't ever occur to most women.

Instead you all mostly prefer to play games send mixed messages then complain that the guy won't leave you alone.

The only real fear I suppose would be that the guy might respond in an honest manner himself, such as you described in your question. Women certainly can't handle the truth any better than they generally speak it.

Answer 6

Yes - they are right to avoid it. There are other ways - why should we be subjected to such abuse from men - sorry - some men - as I have not experienced that myself. Besides, it is better not to hurt the feelings of that person with an outright rejection.

Answer 7

When i clicked to answer your question, that is what I was going to write, to avoid hearing them cry or hurting their feelings. Hearing your statements makes me want to avoid telling them no even more. Men have such delicate feelings for rejection that sometimes they lash out and let their testosterone let out against anyone.

I'm sorry you had to endure that, but kindly turn down someone by saying you have a date that is expected, or that you are with someone at the time, etc. It helps them and you.......

Answer 8

I suppose women are too polite to just give a blunt answer and get abused by men for being truthful. I would just hint that i am not interested or may be say some other times .

Answer 9

Okay, if you think that you should express your feelings you should.I mean just because its a man and he is bigger than you dosen't mean that you can't stick up to him. Also keep your dignity and just ignore all the mean,rude and sexist comments that the man is making! If it persists , then call the cops and print out (or take) anything that would be claimed as evidence.Hope I helped!!!

Answer 10

Well I've never been like that I have asked what i didnt have or do but always respected their decisions & remain friends with them. Obviously those are not really men then. I knew this woman for 13 years we sort of dated for a few years then she hurt me but still I remain friends because I wanted her to be happy & liked being friends. I still cared for her. After the new guy bailed just after she had his son her second but first from the guy she came back. I kept things friendly even though i cared because i didnt want to be hurt but she would talk about being hit on & this guy asking her out & I would help her sort it out. She told me about how she went to a rave & did E & while on it & outside smoking did something public that she regretted doing. I didnt ask she didnt tell & while your mind can wonder on that I didnt say or do anything that wasnt friendly. She would talk about being off track & unhappy how she wanted to get together & missed me but this or that & always put it off even when she would suggest it. She called me once to remind me about a lunar eclipse that was happening & wanted to share it asking me to go outside & watch it while she did the same. After a long time of trying to reconnect the friendship something she wanted also yet at some point I suddenly had something in mind with her... i once loaned her 100 bucks for her car payment not expecting it back but she one day brought it up saying she wanted to make it up to me but couldnt pay me back in cash so how could she make it right. I said dont worry about but she insist & then i said dont worry about it. I never said anything to her bad though I did admit my feelings when she said I had something in mind I also admitting that i got the impression she didnt feel the same & that I wanted her to be happy & just some of her time. I've asked my other friends about the letter & they all had not issues with it so not all guys are that way. I just wanted her to be happy & as much as she talked about being friends again & how unhappy she was with thing the way there were I just wanted to give her something new & if it lead to more great if not so be it. I knew a long time ago it we would just be friends but still i have remain as friendly as i could whether she was single or not & never tried push it yet I'm left feeling like a bad guy because she couldnt even comfirm my believe that she wasnt interested. Also she could have just said that she wasnt ready for a relationship having just gotten out of a long term 4 year one. Not all guys need to try to save face..... I am sorry though that most are & that most are just after sex.


Next time someone does that say then whats that say about you if you just asked me out & got rejected :).