There was that man who I met through work. He was dumped by some hot blond. We had to have dinner together (because of work), and he went on how he was hurt and so on. I nodded and said things like "yes, oh, how awful". Then he asked: "But I am a good guy, good looking and nice?" I said "Sure you are, and you will find a woman one day who will make you happy." (I did not think him either)
Then we go back and it was evening, and dark (winter), and he jumped on me and tried to get me inside his place by force! He said later on that I "flirted" with him!
And there are so many others like this. You are just friendly with
them, indeed, but I never get personal, so why can't they understand that you may say nice things to them to cheer them up or what not, and it means just friendliness and nothing more.
Is it possible at all to be friendly to them without them assuming
impossible things?
2007-03-10 19:44:11 · 8 answers · asked by nev 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men and women can't be friends.
Either you like a guy, or you don't. You can't have it half way. When you try, you send out mixed signals which guys will always look on the bright side of.
We can understand friendliness, but it isn't anything we are interested in. We'll take slutty flirting any time.
2007-03-10 20:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you toy with him especially saying he was a good guy nice guy or good looking if you didnt feel that way. You could have immediately asked about or turned it around to being the other woman's fault & left it at that but no you played into it. He could have been just go on to see if you would bite it might not even have happened that way & even if it did again if you didnt see him as a nice good good looking or anything like that why then say. While I know you meant well it helped cause the problem you are complainting about. I know several guys who can be friends with women they like but dont feel the same way back or even exs. Most guys cant be friends but all real men can. Toying with men though doesnt help anyone & obviously for you its made things weird especially at work I bet. I've never assumed anything about anyone especially female if we go out its just dinner & while I might hope for a date I dont assume that it is. You just have to find the right guys but toying with them or calling them pet names can send the wrong signals so be extra careful especially when you start to suspect he likes you. Guys are often obvious when they like a girl so keep that in mind.
I have several female friends that I would love to have for a long term serious relationship one in perticular but that at times I get a feeling she might want something also there are times where its hard to believe she even knows me. I've helped her with man troubles & always been there for her unlike most of her men even when their dating but all I want is her to be happy. It doesnt help toying with a guy even if you dont mean to. I'm still friends with an ex gf who's married & even if she wanted something romantic or sexual I wouldnt because she's married. She's even stayed at my place while attending her moms funeral....
2007-03-11 05:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by bpeter3196 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sympathy in a situation like that should'nt be very overt at all. Find out why she dumped him and get him to look at his own life and way of thinking. Many men will mistakingly see sympathy from another woman as an invitation for a daliance. Men look for the physical reaffirmation of themselves . Women are more into the emotional inquisition of themselves. Attractivness of the sympathizer in these cases don't enter into the equation very much.
2007-03-11 05:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are just out looking for that one thing. I would say that he failed miserably. Oh and by the way, I am a man and I have never disrespected a lady in a way such as that, nor will I.
2007-03-11 04:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Matt from Ga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you presented yourself in that manner. You can't expect anybody especially a man to ASSUME that you are just being friendly. It goes back to that question of why men can't have women friends.
2007-03-11 04:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should've said women out there except for you. He was a jerk anyway. Men sometimes get more signals than what's actually there.
2007-03-11 05:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell the men you are with someone theyll stay away from you. lying isnt always the best policy but if you want men away from you itll work wonders
2007-03-11 04:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by oneandonlyness 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
because guys are horney perves
2007-03-11 04:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by N 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋