What shall I read in order to make myself interesting?

Question

Hi all,

Help! I am in a date. Being a nerdy engineer, my brain is swamped by numbers and computer stuff. My readings include those very manly topics such as finance, business, war and politics, as well as computers and maths. This creates a huge problem when I hang out with girls. I was both nervous and nerdy and the girls don't find me interesting. How can I make my mindset more socializing and how can I make myself more interesting in front of the girls? What shall I read in leisure time? I really want to be able to carry out fun conversations... Thanks a lot!

Thanks for your wonderful answers. Could you please give me more pointers? More books, more magazines, more websites, more social organizations, etc... Thanks alot!

Answer 1

A book for you...
Approval Addiction
by Joyce Meyer

Be you self and it will all come together for you. Party is over when you have to play some one you are not to get some one to like you. Don't stress it, being too nervous to fit it may just mean they are not your type of people. You need to just be you and when it is right the connection will be made.

Answer 2

I would recommend a book titled "How to win friends and influence people." If you go to your library and look at the books on the different displays I am sure you will find all kinds of things that are interesting. For the time being ignore your usual topics but take home a few of the others, read them, start a cycle. If you don't normally cook at home try some cook books either speciality such as Italian or pasta or one based on level of expertise such as beginners or whatever level you are at. Good luck.

Answer 3

A good book is "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". It talks about the different ways they communicate and the different goals they have for their communication.

Another is Laura Schlessinger's "10 things men do to mess up their lives". It helps you know what to look for in relationships.

Did you watch "Beauty and the Geek"? My teenage daughter and I did, and she was surprised to find that a lot of the geeky guys had something you don't hear much about---character! There was a scene where some girl danced on a boat in high heels and the guys didn't think it was hot, they were concerned for her safety (and naturally thought she was a bit stupid to do it!)

A lot of people watch reality shows because they're wacky, but you can learn about human psychology from there---and it will give you something to talk to girls about!

Answer 4

Well I would start by picking up a magazine like In Touch or some other weekly magazine about celebrities. Girls tend to talk about famous people when they can't find anything else to talk about and it helps if you know who these people are. Next I would recommend some more light hearted material. Something like travel or art because those are safe topics to talk about with people you just met. I would recommend never talking about politics or war with women you just met unless they bring up the topic. I would also avoid computers because if you start talking about computers she is going to start telling you about problems she is having with her computer and then it becomes business instead of a date.

Answer 5

Sorry there is nothing that you can read that will make you dateable unless you're going for a librarian. Girls love to talk, so listen to they have to say. Girls hate it when guys talk about themselves too much. Actually there are very few women who are interested in the same things straight men are (nerd or not).
Don't be a mute, but if you get good at listening to women, you'll learn quickly what women like.

Answer 6

This is sad

You should be the life of the party cause you are so well rounded, yet you want to dumb down in order to get more popular.

Just watch a lot of E (the network), also it helps to watch those "Reality shows" and game shows pretending to be reality shows (1 vs 100 et al.)

Reading people magazine and Us also will help.

The best thing though if you want girls to like you is to listen to them and ask them about their lives and, I can't stress this enough, no matter how uninteresting they are, make them feel like they just told you the secret to the universe.

Repeat after me

"Wow, that is fascinating, tell me more about your love of chia pets"

Answer 7

GO to the net or library and look 4 books on dating.

Answer 8

books i recommend sciences that'll interest you. like bill bryson books or stuff like anne rice's books lol if youre into those things. orsomething more current just read a bit of times, dolly (just playing but it might help) hmm PEOPLE would be good, but it might bore you to death as it did for me.

aand..hmm..watch star world. heroes and such :P

Answer 9

you need a hobby a known one guys usally do you know like sports. and you know what you don't need to be something your not just be yourself it's the best thing that can happen, and one day maybe you'll find the perfect women to comfort you and love you for who you are not by your looks r anyting else those preppy guys have

Answer 10

Nothing....

Because if you feel within yourself that you must read to improve your attraction toward others it means that you lack self confidence. The best way to make yourself more interesting to others is to just be yourself, and to stop second guessing yourself WHY.

Thats just my opinion...