Life has been kinda rough for me, and now I have a wonderful boyfriend who I love. The other day he told me that I take my anger out on him, and he doesn't like it. I was glad he spoke up about it, and he is right. So tonight he was out w/ his friends, and when I talked to him on the phone all of a sudden I found myself being nasty and hangin up on him. I called him back right away and apologized, and then texted him saying that i was really sorry and that I'd had a bad day. I really DO feel so bad! I struggle w/ depression and anxiety and that makes it even harder to control my moods, but I don't want to hurt him anymore! How to I stop acting this way? I am serious, I really mean well and I don't know why I do what i do, besides the fact that I'm insecure and depressed, and he is always there for me. I don't want to drive him away! Any advice?
2007-03-10 18:26:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, theres always the typical answer of "get a shrink and some pills," but thats just stupid. Exercise, eat right, get a punching bag --- now those are things that really will make a difference. Sign up to a karate class and take out your anger on the mat, or kickboxing. If you find yourself getting into a bad mood, just tell your boyfriend you'll talk to him later, go get something to eat or drink, or just start punching your punching bag. And if you cant tell when your getting angry, ask your boyfriend to point it out, but very kindly point it out because you don't want to end up snapping at him for pointing that out.
Also, a journal might be a good idea to vent in writing, but that always risks someone finding it.
2007-03-10 18:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by >>Chimmy Chonga<< 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people take their anger out on others without realizing it. You could get a squeeze ball for when you are stressed out or upset. If you have time writing in a journal really helps. Also if you know you are angry think of what you say to him before you say it. If you can afford it talking to a therapist would really help you. If not your boyfriend will be happy to listen to your anxieties and help you ease them which will help you with your anger towards him or anybody else and bring you closer together. Good luck!
2007-03-10 18:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by jenjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling sessions, therapy, anger management classes...anything like that should help but it takes time. Talk to him about it, ask him if he would go with you to get the help and let him know that it takes time, it is a slow process and you cant rush it and expect things to be better overnight. He has to be willing to work with you also. Good luck!
2007-03-10 18:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, whatever you do, don't appear too needy. that's what it sounds like you are doing. even if you are insecure and depressed, for goodness sakes, don't let it show. be confident in yourself. figure out the reasons he loved you to begin with and be that person for him again. it's easy when you are depressed to expect your loved ones to have the answers, often they don't even know what you need, let alone know how to help. talk to a professional about your depression. i suspect this will also help your self esteem.
2007-03-10 18:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need therapy from your childhood your bf is just the one you chose to beat up on to resolve it cheaply
2007-03-10 18:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by q6656303 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋