My girlfriend of 4 months has come from an 8 year relationship where she says she never cheated on him once.
She was telling my about her best friend, saying they talk about sex a lot. She said "she likes to compare sizes", i said i didnt care (which i don't), then she said "she always wants to know" to compare them with her boyfriend of 4 years. Thing is they had both slept with my GFs last guy of 8 years, they both new him so they wern't talking about him!
So......who did her best friend "always want to know about" if she hasnt slept with anyone else for 8 years?
When i asked her we rowed for hours , in the end she said she just wasn't thinking straight, do i believe her? I actually really dont care if she did cheat on him and ive always told her that, but i cant stand lies.
2007-03-10 18:21:24 · 12 answers · asked by jo soap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she likes to compare, then she probably has compared a few in the last 8 years...It sound like she likes the high, hard one...Good luck, I hope you size up
2007-03-10 18:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what she did with this other guy in the past. What matters is what she is doing with you now. Let the past stay where it is and focus on the present. Buy her some lovely flowers and say you want to forget about all that.
You say you can't stand lies and yes, most people can't, but this sort of lie doesn't really matter. Relax and let her talk about what she wants with her friend and don't show her you are worried about all this as it will make you look insecure in her eyes and women hate that.
Good luck!
2007-03-11 03:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by SK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, right now you should just stick to her being a liar until she redeems herself by telling the truth. She said she wasn't thinking straight because she couldn't get her lies straight. There's that saying, "Don't lie, that way you won't have to remember anything." Also, you should be aware how she handled past relationships. Don't be surprised when she does something hurtful.
2007-03-11 03:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by cashew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it too much since it was a past relationship. But I can tell you right now that if you are having trust issues whether they are real or imagined that you have some kind of trust issues with yourself. You need to either work through them now or you might as well give up this relationship.
2007-03-11 03:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lies are a fact of life, we all have lied or will lie in our lives at sometime, but lies about the size of sex organs is another thing, who can be bothered or interested, very strange.
2007-03-11 03:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is, it's in the past. she shouldnt have brought it up as its a bit insensitive - most girls talk about their b/f's together, the same as men talk about their g/f's i expect :)
but, maybe she isnt lying, maybe the way you questioned her made her falter?
i'm in a relationship (longterm with kids) with someone who cannot stand the fact that i i had a life with other men b4 him, and sometimes it drives a wedge between us so much that now i dont bring much up from the past, even if it isnt about past relationships, as he manages to find a link somewhere and we row again. its his insecurities, but i gotta live with them and its hell on occasions!!
so ask yourself, is she lying to hurt you?is she lying to try not to hurt you?
then tell her you should both draw a line under it all. and ask her to not tell you about her girlie chats as they are private between her and her girlfriends.
if you are serious about each other, thats the healthy option.
otherwise you risk losing her. so look in your heart and find out how much you wanna be with this g/f.
then move on and look forward together.
good luck.
2007-03-11 03:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you love the girl trust him..accept her past life..but if still important to you her past you should find the truth by not involving other people..you will see it by means of how a girl act or talken..be observant
2007-03-11 03:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by 0330em@jd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, 8yrs is a long time to be in a relationship.....she must have issues still, i think your the rebound!
she is lying about her past!
i think you should cut ties!
good luck
2007-03-11 08:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you really like her dont push her. talk about everything be her best friend and in time she will open up more. if she did lie she is probably just worried about loosing you.
2007-03-11 03:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think she is lying . and what you should do is tell her to be completely honest with you and remind her that you don't really care if she cheats on you.
2007-03-11 03:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by kina l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋