Do nice girls even still exist?

Question

How many really nice girls have you personally known in your life? The kind of girl who would be nice, care for and appreciate you because you're also a nice guy, and that you knew you could have an enduring, committed relationship with, since you would know how to treat her right? I've only met one girl who ever was really like that in my whole life, but ended up not being to pursue her because she was unavailable (and it seems they're always already taken, even if they do exist).

We hear all the time from society that females are the kinder and more compassionate gender, but I'm not sure I can really believe that -- if they're really out there, I just haven't met them for some reason. It's almost as if as you and they get older, their hearts harden and it becomes impossible to meet any available nice girls anymore after a certain age.

Answer 1

Just from experience, they still exist. It is not easy to find a good person in this day and age. When you see a nice girl, you just have to strike while the iron is hot. Keep being positive by knowing there are still nice ones out there. If you dwell on the negative, you're going to contract negative things. Yes, there are many women who get older and jaded, but don't let it stop you. If you do, you're going to dwell back to square one.

Answer 2

I agree but I think it's kind of the same for women looking for Mr. Right. Usually the expectations are set too high and they are just impatient. I don't think most guys are really romantic, caring, and wanting to listen for hours.. when you've been married for years and years. A long term relationship is more about having a f(@# buddy that you will be as nice as possible to while she's nice to you too. Women want crazy amounts of attention. Their genes tell them to find nice nest and take care of it, while keeping up on the latest trends in order to maintain their place in the social structure. Men do all that too, just not as vehemently with the make-up and dresses etc.

Answer 3

I'm a nice girl and so are all of my friends. The problem is that none of us are insecure and dependent so guys are only ever interested in us until they figure out that we're not going to abandon our own lives to stalk them everywhere. I am convinced that guys love needy girls.

I am 26 and my single friends are sweet, caring, compassionate and kind as well as intelligent, attractive and independent.

I think you need to realise two things.
1 - Nice people in general (not just girls) get screwed around and taken advantage of which leads to them becoming wary (or for their hearts to harden as you put it).

2 - Maybe you're just looking in the wrong place or not getting to know people well enough. I don't know what kind of people you know, but if every girl is nasty in all of your various friendship networks, maybe you're hanging out with the wrong people.

The fact is, nice girls don't hang around certain types of guys. Like players. And ***holes. And crackheads.

I promise - we are out and about in the community. I would suggest if caring and compassion is so important to you, you should start doing volunteer work. IN my experience, volunteers are amongst the most altrusitic and caring of all people. I am sure you'll meet a nice girl there too.

Take care.

Answer 4

I think really that it all goes 50/50 sometimes, yeah some of us giels can be stuck up and rude but not all girls are like that, and not all nice girls arew taken, the thing is that your looking to hard, but to tell you the truth when you least expect it your nice girl will come along, only time can tell when. Enjoy life while your young and single your time will come soon but some nice girls do still exist, there just hiding-K-
Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

Your question is confusing two different issues

You are assuming a chick can somehow MAKE herself be attracted to the "nice guy' - ie. the sincere, monogamous, noncontrolling male

Chicks simply go with the "chemistry" and it's absolutely not a volitional choice for them - they are a slave to their DNA and all that evolutionary baggage

Seed spreading males, who clearly had the evolutionary advantage for 3 to 5 million years are generally is what is going to ratchet up what chicks crave most - which is CHEMISTRY

Chemistry is their crack cocaine of life, and "nice guys" cannot offer than the (illusive) promise of genetic immortality that the cheating, lying, and controlling bad guy can offer

Note this is all about genetic perception, not reality - as genes in effect make decisions that favor gene survival and cheating seed spreaders (in evolutionary terms) increase the chicks odds of moving her gene's forward

Perception in genetic terms - is far more important than reality

The bottom line is: drop the nice guy act - and it doesn't mean you have to be absusive to women as even a hint of cheating, lying, and controlling behavior is a real plus and a real turn-on with most chicks - otherwise you are just spinning your wheels

Answer 6

They do exist, but they are not easy to find. I have met some absolutely delightful girls in my time, but unfortunately they have either been unavailable, or I've had difficulties with shyness.. Also, the older you get, the more difficult it becomes to meet nice, unattached girls.

I've also noticed that older girls tend to be much less trusting, and a lot more cynical than the younger ones. I suppose that bad experiences with guys in their past have taught them to be much more wary. Its totally understandable...

Answer 7

Girls don't really want NICE BOYS, nice boys are boring.
Don't be so easy, give us girls something to work for.
That will weed out the losers, take a little charge in your life. You don't have to be a nasty S.O.B but you don't have to be a push over either.

Look luck and don't give up (sounds like you feeling a little sorry for yourself) try a stronger stance and be a take charge kind of guy, I think the girls might need to see a new you

Answer 8

properly there are frequently a million in each team of girls that are literally not the party variety. Like me, i flow party yet i do not drink or something, and really some the females i flow with are the lower than the impression of alcohol promiscuous variety. So even as your at your next party note more suitable and attempt to discover that a million lady that in reality likes to socialize, shes available.

Answer 9

not to be like corny here, but that's exactly the way i am.. even though i am a model, and have money and everything.. i'm never showy, snotty, mean, or anything like that... i give money and things to people who need them, instead of buy like a 400$ shirt i really don't need... i hate fake and snotty people.. it's like why be like that?? i'm all about loving a guy for his personality. like i know people think models only go out with like the most gorgeous guys, but i'm not like that. if i can trust a guy, and he can make me laugh and feel cared for.. what more do i need? i'm all about having fun and loving life.. while being nice, and it's sad that many people don't think that way anymore =[ i actually think i e-mailed u =].. so maybe we can talk soon =]

xox jen

Answer 10

I am over 30 and have a HUGE heart. I am very caring, affectionate, loving, and I would do ANYTHING for a man I loved. I am the type of girl to be there for you 100%, through anything. So... we're out there. But I think I am unusual, bec guys tell me that. But the good news: you attract what you emanate. You'll find her. Try yoga class, or mediatation group, something like that.