Is it wrong for Christian teens to makeout?

Question

We are (19 yrs. old) planning on marriage, have really close relationship. My mom just found out that we kiss and she is freaking out asking questions. But we both want to be virgins when we marry and pray and read together. Arewe sinning when showing affection?

Answer 1

First of all, I want to scream from the rooftops that showing affection is not nonchristian at all. We abstain from sexual intercourse because the act is a lot more than just pleasure. it realy unites the two people together. I did have an english teacher who "Saved his lips for marrage" That is a choice you can make, but not one i would sugjest. The fact that your open and honest and close enough to pray and read together means your realy on the right track. Your mom is being a protective mother, and they do that. Try to keep any physical contact on the down low simply because her maternal instincts will kick and she will naturaly freak out. You will too when you are gifted with a child. But please, not once in the bible does it mention that kissing should be a thing saved for marrage. Sex is saved for marrage is a choice you can make and should make, but making out is no sin.


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Every relationship is diferent. Dont look to every other couple and be limited or enabled by there progress. Be honest with your boyfriend, and talk with him. Set limits that you dont want to aproach, let alone do. Then stick to them. Love is a wonderous thing and shouldnt be killed by nonbiblical imposed morals to keep children from leaving the house.

Answer 2

I think it really depends on how YOU feel about it. I was not even 19 and a virgin when I got married. My husband and I both have Christian backgrounds. I think that if you are doing something wrong, you will feel that it is wrong. I personally think it is a good decision to keep sex until marriage. However, there is nothing in the bible against showing appropriate levels of affection. Most people definitely aren't holding out as well as you are. A sin is relative to a person though. It might be a sin for one person to drink alcohol and not another person. Find out what feels right to you. He won't lead you astray. Best of luck. And remember "let your concscience be your guide."

Answer 3

Nope, I don't think you're sinning. I'm a Christian too and I don't believe that making out is wrong. It's only when other physical things start to happen that you need to be careful. My advice would be to set specific limits with your boyfriend before you kiss anymore, and stick to those limits (for ex., nothing beyond making out or french kissing) and maybe avoid compromising situations (like dark rooms where you're alone) so that nothing can happen. As long as you are conscious of what you're doing and WHY you're doing it (I'm assuming you care for your boyfriend if you want to kiss him) then it should be perfectly fine. Different faiths have different interpretations on this, but in my opinion a little making out is allowed. Just don't take it to the next level until marriage! Good luck :)

Answer 4

If you are sinning should be apparent to you. Are you thinking of her as a sexual partner, if so, you have stepped over the line.

BibleGateway.com is an excellent website. You can type in the subject you want to ask about and you will get a list of Bible verses.

Why is your mom freaking out? Your mom knows full well what hormones are capable of doing. Some say do not trust your hormones. Well, I trust my hormones, alright. They will get me into trouble in a flash.

My husband and I were very careful to not get ourselves in a position to fall into temptation. We didn't watch TV laying down for instance, one of us was in a sitting position. We never did anything more then hug and kiss, and never in a laying down position.

Your mom knows how easy it is to let hormones get out of control and then things happen that you don't want to have happen.

Sin is always fun. Otherwise we wouldn't want to indulge in it. But, sin will turn on you and take you farther than you wanted to go, make you stay there longer than you wanted to stay, and make you loose more than you wanted to loose.

Please be careful. God is great and your desire to please Him with being virgins when you marry is to be commended.

You bring a lot less baggage to your marriage if you have kept your self for the one you will grow old with.

May God bless your efforts.

Answer 5

Im catholic and I do! and you want to get married great! plan on being virgins when you do? even better! Your 19! Your big kids now!(lol)You can handle yourselves! No your not sinning! your just fine!

Answer 6

okay, from me not being very religious. i would say no its not a sin, cause i mean everyone sins at one point in their life, making out is just natural, it happens to the best of us, we do things we dont do, but we do them cause it feels right. by making out it brings you two closer, and yes moms can freak out when they take notice in those activities. but hopefully everything will work out for you. dont worry just do what you need to do to make yourself feel better if you think you did a horrible deed by making out.

Answer 7

As far as I know, you're only sinning if you have intercourse. Sex before marriage is what is considered the sin..you guys are fine.

Answer 8

your mom sounds a bit overptoective. if ur kissing , thtas fine. u said you want to be virgins when your married - so just dont have sex.

Answer 9

no. did ur mom find out by u telling her, or did she have to find out the hard way ~_~ if you know its true love, and if its not lustfull, and u both like each other (or love) then it shouldnt be wrong. but remember that if its pure, and not lust. so lust or love? that is the question ^^

Answer 10

i think there's nothing wrong about that....couples need touch from each other....it's not a sin but u should know ur limitations...