I have a few questions about sex?

Question

I just lost my virginity 3 nights ago to the man I love. I don't regret it and I'm so happy that it was with him!! :)

But! We have had sex twice and for a total of about 4 or 5 hours. It still hurts quite a bit and I feel nauseous a lot of the time. Is there something wrong with me health wise? Has any other girl gone through this? Please help!!

-Sorry I was not specific...while we are having sex sometimes I feel nauseous.

Answer 1

idk i guess, maybe its just your body getting use to getting inserted with something... maybe try http://www.webmd.com/

Answer 2

Don't worry; this isn't abnormal. Not everyone will go through the same thing, but not everyone is built the same way either. I've heard from a number girls who had the same experience at first; a few had sex over ten times before they really adjusted and became more comfortable with it. If you need, take a little more time in between to recover too. Many people's first times aren't very enjoyable, whether it's because of the body's unfamiliarity or nerves or both.

Make sure he knows what's happening to you. It might help if he's less forceful, or if you guys don't go for as long. Make sure you ate enough beforehand if you're prone to lower blood sugar; sex requires quite a bit of physical exertion and 4-5 hours in a few nights isn't exactly a short time, especially since you may well be using muscles you weren't fully aware you had. I'm assuming there's probably a decent amount of foreplay happening based on the time; be sure to keep that up because it helps you loosen up [literally and figuratively]. Communication is always key, but in your case it sounds like it would be extra helpful.

If it keeps going for a long time and you're still concerned, try talking to your gynecologist. They've heard just about everything and can often either help you out or refer you to someone else too [and if yours is unfortunately judgemental, don't hesitate to find a new one]. I hope things become more enjoyable for you. Good luck!

Answer 3

OK, here's what I think.... Firstly, well done on finding a man you love. Secondly, if you used protection then you're probably not pregnant. If you were to be pregnant then you wouldn't know after 3 days so you need to calm down and stop panicking - it's this panicking that's probably making you feel nauseous. 4/5 hours is a pretty heft session, particularly for your first time! It's bound to hurt so just bathe yourself and relax and you'll be fine. If you didn't use contraception then you will need to get tested for pregnancy and other sti's. Have a think about this, you know yourself what the right thing is. I hope this helps, take care and stop stressing! Just enjoy being with the man you love :)

Answer 4

Well, assuming that you used the proper protection then its probably just the after affects of long involved sex. Some couples go 2 min, others go 5 hours. It depends. 3 nights is not enough to even worry about signs of pregnancy so dont think about that. The affects are too soon so they couldnt be related whatsoever. The soreness will go away, but you may wish to ask him to be more gentle. You have just as much say as him (often times more, because your the girl, which bothers guys quite a bit.) be honest and open with him, and tell him what you want. Guys often like to hear what girls want anyway. Open relationships are the key to staying togeter.

Answer 5

I am not a medical doctor, but as you sound rather serious, let me give you some pieces of advice.

1. Try to spend less time having sex for the time being.
At this stage, since you are not fully used to love making, try to be easy. Tell your partner that you don't feel good and avoid having impetuous sex for a prolonged time. Try to have actual intercourse for shorter period of time. If both of you love and care each other, being together in bed will be just as pleasurable as actually "being together".

2. There may be a slight danger of your having potential aversion to sex.
Human bodies are made to enjoy and find ecstasy in having sex. However, sometimes, it rarely happens that women have a strong aversion to having sex. This can be caused when a woman has the first experience forcibly or cruelly, or
in a rather abnormal way. You and your partner should be happy about having sex. But if you feel nauseous every time you have sex with him, it may lead to potential sex aversion. To be open with him and try to talk how you feel to him.

3. There may be the possibility of other reasons.

If you feel bad and nauseous for a week or so, without having sex with him, there may be the possibility of other reasons.
If that will be the case, you should go and see the doctor.

Take care of yourself!

Answer 6

does he know you were a virgin? if not, maybe now is good time to tell him so he knows to slow down!
if he did know then he's not thinking of your feelings or body very well (is he insensitive or immature?) so you must tell him.
maybe he's not experienced and doesnt realise what hes doing. maybe he is and doesnt care what hes doing?
sorry to sound harsh but SOME men are like this, so just looking out for you.
but nausea isnt usual, so guess its your body's way of signalling that 4-5 hours your 1st few times isnt good for you!
it will hurt a little the 1st few times, so make sure you're BOTH relaxed, not going to be disturbed, do LOTS of foreplay (if not sure what to do, look on net, and of course TALK to each other) to make sure you're lubricated b4 he enters you. foreplay can last hours and then have sex for a short time, which may be better for you as you recently a virgin.
if he doesnt agree to any of this then i'm afraid the fact you love him must be ignored and you get away from him as then hes just using you. but if hes in agreement, great!!
also buy lubricant - at the same time he buys condoms - i hope hes wearing condoms?? if not you are both being very very irresponsible and i suggest you buy some now!! STD's are painful, embarrassing and hard to get rid of. unplanned babies are not a good idea either and the agony of deciding over what to do is best avoided. i'm sure you are using contraception, but get to a chemist now and get some if not PLEASE!
also read books on sex and relationships, research the internet for information and ideas, but only use genuine sites!
slowly you will both come to enjoy sex in a loving way together. its about your needs too, so dont let him get away with this any longer!!
good luck and have fun

Answer 7

4 to 5 hours at a time will do that to you love. if it hurts tell him he will understand if he really respects you. 4 /5 hours is a long time for anyone let alone for your first time and all this pregnancy lark you can take the morning after pill up to 3 days later even tho the name of it states the morning after. take care and have safe sex not sorry sex.

Answer 8

chances are, your not pregnant cause u wouldnt feel nauseous after 3 days.
the nausea is probably being caused by the surge of emotions and hormones in ur body, so yes its normal
and i understand it hurting abit, but u will get used to it- 4/5 hours is a long time

xx

Answer 9

If he loves you then you should be able to tell him that since you were a virgin that you are still sore and you need to lay off until you feel better. Don't give in until you are completely healed. Four or five hours is just too much for you right now. For that matter any hours would be too much for you right now. Don't risk infection--wait until you are not sore anymore.
While we are at it, if this really is love, why aren't you guys planning a wedding?

Answer 10

Sit in a tub of luke warm water for 10 minutes - if a lttle bit of salt is added to the water, it will be more benificial. Don't do sex for the altleast next one week - then its ok. Take liquid (jucies etc) a lot.

Answer 11

it will probably hurt for a few days, as you have only just lost your virginity, i dont really think there is nothing wrong with you healthwise, but if the pain is still there in a weeks time , go and get it checked out at the gp's