So everyone tells me I'm pretty, cute, naturally beautiful, etc. And to be honest (and not conceited), I do feel that I am pretty. The thing is, guys never seem to want to go out with me. I just don't understand what the problem is. I don't have a weird personality or anything! I can make jokes on the spot and I'm generally nice to people. So what could it be that's causing the guys to keep me on a "Friend-to-friend" relationship?
2007-03-10 17:39:07 · 14 answers · asked by Jan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the answers so far, they've been awesome.
2007-03-10 17:45:38 · update #1
and by the way, I'm serious when I say I'm not trying to be self-absorbed or anything. It's just a little confusing to get complements like these and then...no luck with love :]
2007-03-10 17:49:11 · update #2
Remember, your first relationship is with yourself. So, learn to love yourself, to accept yourself as you are, without judgment. If you can honor yourself, others will see this in you and they will honor you, and be attracted to you. All of us live in our heads and hearts...so learn to live comfortably with yourself. You will find others will have difficulty with themselves. Those who are also comfortable with themselves, those you will find attractive and they will be attracted to you.
2007-03-10 17:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guys that are around you are not on your level yet. It takes boys a while to mature to become men. And that's just what you're dealing with boys. Just hang in there I'm sure that the right guy will come along when you least expect it. Good luck.
2007-03-11 01:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because you seem so friendly from the very beginning that guys automatically think that you only want them as a friend. plus remember that guys have a problem with talking to pretty girls. at least most of them do. so imagine, on top of the fact that they are already nervous to be rejected by a beautiful girl, you give them signs that you see them as friends. it can be very discouraging. maybe next time you can keep it in mind, so that the next guy that you like, isntead of being so friendly, you can be a little more flirty. with boundaries of course, we dont wanna send the wrong message, again.
2007-03-11 01:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not you, you just havent met the right fit yet.
And if you feel like you need someone now, it may be up to you to make the first move.
Im a dude in the same spot. I keep getting all the crap about being a great guy and good looking, and I could see if it was just friends telling me that to make me feel good. But its strangers, and Im always like what the hell then?
So Im going with plan B, treat women like dirt and they stick to you like mud.
2007-03-11 01:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Thats me...A to the D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I truly admire what you wrote.
Some girls that are not seen pretty to the majority of the people think that they have an advantage to date guys or have a relationship with someone who understands who they are, not just someone who admires their looks.
You are like the Disney Swan Princess when she said to her "should-be" prince: "What else"?
Well any Prince should love his princess for her kindness, truthfullness, and anything human-like
Men may not understand that because of the media.
"Hot" is the thing of the past, "Sexy" is the new "you"..yeah right...
every man is different for sure.
and they may want a friend-to-friend relationship:
1. to show off
2. to look "cool" because "cool people hang out with cool looking and attractive people"
3. attention
etc... simply lots of unnecessary reasons..but BE YOURSELF..YOU'LL FIND SOMEONE WHO DESERVES YOU FOR SURE!
~my opinion that is. :)
2007-03-11 01:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may be intimidated by your confidence and/or beauty...try to make it more clear that you are interested in certain guys as more than friends...greater physical contact and flirty comments should do the trick...good luck
2007-03-11 01:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well that seems pretty much impossible. tons of guys will go out with a hot girl with no personality. tons of guys will go out with girls with great personalitys but no looks. billions of guys would go out with girls who have both. Maybe you have just been extremely extremely unlucky. I honestly have no idea. sorry
2007-03-11 01:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by flonkas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should act. Ask someone out! Maybe that will start everything for you! If you keep waiting, Nothing is going to happen.
2007-03-11 01:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by DX Generation22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Naturally beautiful" tells me that you're probably the wholesome type. So, plaster on a bunch of makeup and look cheap 'cause that's what we guys like.
2007-03-11 01:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you sound exactly how i use to be..the thing is...guys are scared to date you...they get too close to you..then dont want to be with you and if something happens then has to leave you for the time it'll mess things up!!......
2007-03-11 01:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by Layla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋